Well it is an addiction, just like people who love crack, heroin, money, sex, cheating, lying, stealing, etc. This addiction came from the person having a void in themselves that they haven't dealt with yet. This can come from very simple upsets in life, but have affected the individual in very big ways.
Men do have the ability to emotionally open up, love themselves and make their lives better for themselves and everyone around them. There is a perpetuated stereotype that men are 'unable' to comprehend certain emotions, or that it is a waste of time to begin with, this is only because the men themselves get too scared to even confront these memories and earlier pains, and how they did or did not react in the best way possible.
Rage, external addictions, depression, over-inflated egos, and abusing others are all great examples of how men "cope" with very extreme events in life, obviously all of these are not good for the individual to experience as well, so he is actually reacting in this way because he has turned the pain onto himself by truly fucking up his life from the inside out. (Hurting all the ones he loves the most, and then pushing them away once and for all when he truly needs the help)
But just like with all addicts, if they don't see that their lives will not get better unless they change from within, then any therapy won't make a difference until they WANT to change for their own sake. Of course its only a matter of time until the man will want to change, but until then, if anyone touched my child I would probably physically hurt them, but that is only to help wake them up back to reality.