In my personal opinion, Cheating involves intercourse (of any kind) and or working up to intercourse (I.E dating, kicking it without the other person knowing.)
Your girl prolly feels like you were going to try to work up to it by letting your ex know that the situation in your current relationship isnt going to good. It leaves open the possibilty of having a "second/third" chance. You have to let her know that's not the case and that your ex caught you at a time that you just needed someone to talk to.
You should let her know ahead of time that you will talk to your ex's "as friends" to avoid any future problems like this. Im no expert by any means but ive had about 12 relationships in my lifetime and im 26 atm. One thing you will learn quick is that, as a man, you WILL NEVER fully understand women. Your only hope is to tread cautiously when in a relationship with them.
I agree with you (in my opinion cheating involves intercouse too). I don't feel I cheated because I didn't bang, didn't think about banging, didn't talk about banging, and didn't have any intent on banging this woman. I've already told her that in the future I may speak to ex's "as friends" and she let me know she ain't cool with that (because woman tend to "frabricate stories"). I wouldn't care if she spoke to her ex's because I am not jealous like that! As long as they're not hittin' (or any other physical contact) I could care less about what they talk about.
like me looking at the crosswalk at a red light in my car (and there just happened to be a girl there)
ive got in arguments because i told a cashier 'thank you' and smiled, i was flirting
'you never smile and say thank you to me"
YOU ARENT A FUCKING CASHIER!
chicks are just weird like that, its gonna happen, you just gotta learn to pay it no mind i guess.
i have whole lists of parinoid shit ive been hit with. and 90 percent of them are hilarious to me. some i wont even mention out of respect, but theyre reallly reallly funny.
yeah you cheated me out of the 3 minutes it took to skim the first page
of course you didnt cheat. cheating is physical contact not having sext
but you did fuck up by bringing up the relatioinship w/ an ex and not deleting the messages. if you're not tryin to hit it all u and an ex should talk about is hey how you doin what you been up to take care peace
Actually studies have shown that females overwhelmingly feel that an emotional confidement/attachment to another female (by their partner) besides them is worse than actually having sex (oral or intercourse) with another female. Simply put, they would feel more betrayed by an emotional attachment to somebody else than if their partner went out and banged some other broad. They feel this way because an emotional attachment shows a deeper bond between 2 people. I would agree, I mean, having meaningless one night stand is just that, meaningless. But if your partner has gone so far as to develop an emotional attachment to somebody else, they obviously have a more meaningful relationship than just a sexual one. Men are the other way around. It's kind of in our nature to feel we have to protect what is ours; so if some dude bangs another dude's girlfriend, that dude feels like his 'property' was violated. Not all guys are like that though.....I'm not gonna go googling to find a source just take my word for it....
Yeah he knows... I really don't care because I wasn't out to get at his woman. I'm not into stealing wives... He already knows if he wants to handle it we can, but to me it's not that serious!
LOL, I'm not trippin' off of dude, and I don't know if he's trippin' off of me or what. He needs to be upset at his wife though and not me. She was the one telling me how bad he was treating her and all that.... I just encouraged/advised her to work through it since she's married. So if he's heated he needs to be upset with his wife. I haven't heard anything from him though so it may be squashed. I'm not trippin' but I am not going to run and hide either.