Im a father of four and have spanked all my kids before. My daughters are 12 and 10 years old now and i wont touch them. God forbid they put a twerk tape out, i wouldnt put hands on em like that.
I would talk to them and tell them how much they have discraced our family, themselves and let them know i didnt raise them to act this way. Im always putting in their head how thier actions affect the way people percive them. for example;Thier at the age where they want to put on make up. The way i handle that is they can wear makeup around the house but not outside. I let them know makeup is a way to attract attention from people (mostly men) that can get them into situations and converstations they cant handle. Even without makeup this can happen yes, but i will try my damnest to not have them enhance the situation.
My oldest son is 10 and barley gets spanked anymore. For example; this kid loses everything and has lost to many jackets/sweaters of late, to the point where he has none left. This morning it was a little chilly out and he wanted to wear this oversized mens jacket that doesent look right to school. Today is wednesday and he goes to a private school where they have to wear a colllared shirt, tie, dress shoes and slacks. I iron these items so my boys ( i have a 6 year old also) look right, sharp and feel good! I do not condone wearing an oversized jacket with these dress clothes or any outfit for that matter and he knows this. So today he went to school without a jacket and was pretty upset about it. This type of punishment i have noticed is really effective.
I would talk to them and tell them how much they have discraced our family, themselves and let them know i didnt raise them to act this way. Im always putting in their head how thier actions affect the way people percive them. for example;Thier at the age where they want to put on make up. The way i handle that is they can wear makeup around the house but not outside. I let them know makeup is a way to attract attention from people (mostly men) that can get them into situations and converstations they cant handle. Even without makeup this can happen yes, but i will try my damnest to not have them enhance the situation.
My oldest son is 10 and barley gets spanked anymore. For example; this kid loses everything and has lost to many jackets/sweaters of late, to the point where he has none left. This morning it was a little chilly out and he wanted to wear this oversized mens jacket that doesent look right to school. Today is wednesday and he goes to a private school where they have to wear a colllared shirt, tie, dress shoes and slacks. I iron these items so my boys ( i have a 6 year old also) look right, sharp and feel good! I do not condone wearing an oversized jacket with these dress clothes or any outfit for that matter and he knows this. So today he went to school without a jacket and was pretty upset about it. This type of punishment i have noticed is really effective.