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Gemini

Gemini

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Great replies & great views, so thank all of you for that. I don't expect everyone to agree, so that's my reason for asking.

My son is 8 years old and I actually sat and watched it with him. I made him cover his eyes in some parts). He soaked it up like a sponge and actually spoke out loud when Tre got out of the car, refusing to go hunt down them other dudes. My son said, "That's good he's not going to kill nobody."

I had a father to son talk with him after and he hit everything on point and saw the positive in it. He answered down to detail about Ricky having the path to go to a University, Doughboy doing the wrong thing, how Tre goes on to collage etc.

I kicked myself this question for days and came to the conclusion that if I wait til he's in his early teens he'll have that, "I know what I'm doing" type of attitude and it'd be a little too late. I feel I need to mold him now.

Perhaps a harsh reality, but I rather he learns it at home and feel free to ask me questions and gain that father, friendship, relationship.

Again, I don't expect everybody to agree, but I as his father I know my child best and I can say I am proud that he is sharp, plus has me to guide him and be here for him as he grows up.
 
Gemini

Gemini

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blunt_hogg559 said:
kinda brings into question the values and lessons you impart on the child. honestly.
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I asked for an opinion, so I can't even be mad at you.

...but! I raised my nephew from day one and he grew up watching movies like Boyz N the Hood, Menace II Society, American Me (started with Boyz N the Hood) etc. Yet, I was always there to guide him in the right direction. I think we often forget the value of quality time. This is my end result...

 
REdRUM

REdRUM

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I think it depends on the maturity level of the child, his/her ability to differentiate between right and wrong, and your relationship with said child.

Boyz N The Hood wasn't about killing, bitches, and dope. Sure, it was a part of the movie, but if that's all you got out of it, you aren't mature enough to be watching it. I watched that movie when it first came out; I was like 12. I was mature enough, IMO, to handle the subject matter and take away the messages in it, and I think it's a fine movie to share with your children, if and when the time is right.

My kid's can watch it, when they reach a certain age and/or maturity level, but unless they're locked in the basement 24/7, you can't and won't control what they view.
 
Mike Manson

Mike Manson

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Gemini said:
I asked for an opinion, so I can't even be mad at you.

...but! I raised my nephew from day one and he grew up watching movies like Boyz N the Hood, Menace II Society, American Me (started with Boyz N the Hood) etc. Yet, I was always there to guide him in the right direction. I think we often forget the value of quality time. This is my end result...

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I hope your son won't have to fight a war for the rich men...
 
L.D.S.

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Age, to me, does matter. I believe it's best if the father shows his son the perils of life rather than him discovering them through his friends. Peer to peer communication is different now as kids have things like Youtube and text to communicate, and often the most indescribable and frightening things in life can be found on the internet.

I don't specifically remember my dad watching movies that were above my maturity level with me, but if he knew I had discovered something out of my comprehension he would explain it to me and teach the morally correct thing to do.

I have a hard time believing "maturity" as the main basis of allowing a child to watch things such as death, violence, and sex will help him cope with stuff he shouldn't be worrying about.

I had my head in the clouds and my hands on a Ninja Turtle until I was 13, and the only time I really watched gritty tv or movies was when I was elsewhere with friends.

Yes, being a father figure and being a father are two different things; mainly because as a father you are held responsible to what you subject your child to, and the emphasis is less on just a father figure.

I do not have children, but my friends and other peoples kids look up to me, and I do not practice a lot of profanity or glorify violence in their presence. I do not believe in advancing a child's maturity level or aging him too quickly. A child should be slowly introduced to the world, not rushed into it and forced to grow up.
 
Mac Jesus

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SHEA said:
@ Gemini, I aint letting my kid watch that shit, just cause he dont live in the hood, probably never will, & he wont be living that lifestyle ( or mine )



I am using these 2 things in court right now against my BM, & her lack of better judgment, my son is 7 & has a facebook & a cell phone. I have been very vocal in being against it since the gate, but she aint letting up.
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Good luck SHEA, that's the same situation for my brother. My niece is the one with a facebook and cell phone. Her mom is a nut.
 
DFresh77

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My daughter is 9 years old Gemini and I still refuse to let her watch movies such as Boyz In The Hood or even some PG-13 movies.

The movie she and my niece recently watched with me was Vampires Suck, I watched the movie 1st to make sure there wasn't nudity and crap like that. Although there was a sex scene (no nudity), I still told them to cover their eyes when it came on.

But it's cool that you had that little talk with him after the movie, that should be enough for him to understand about reality and a movie.

Shea, you might be able to win the Facebook case but as far as cell phone. The judge might just ignore it, good luck with that tho bro.
 
CHRISHOGGALYPSE

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that's tough to say but good question. i definitely don't think that sheltering your child is the way to go but some things are better left not talked about until you have to. boys in the hood is one thing but it's another have him endure a prison rape scene from american me. kids are very fragile regardless of what their maturity level may seem like.

i grew up well beyond my years and saw nightmare on elm street 1 and 2 at 5 years old because my mom and sister fell asleep and that was waaaaaaaaay too early. even if my mom stayed awake and explained that it was "just a movie" it wouldn't have helped. For all the bad decisions and behavior that you can expand on with good fatherly advice from boyz in the hood or movies like that, it depends on the person as far as how they take it.

It's a fine line to walk and there is no real right answer but personally I probably wouldn't shot it to my son that early. That talk can be had without showing them the movie.
 
CHRISHOGGALYPSE

CHRISHOGGALYPSE

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and kids being on the internet, having their own email address and facebook and all that is a terrible idea in my eyes. Even at 14-15 it's questionable. I was talkin to beezies at that age online, if they invited me over and had a pic that looked cool, i woulda checked it out. It coulda been a man for all i know. It just ain't safe man
 
Timm

Timm

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Shit kids are so dynamic though. I mean, I remember being 3 years old sneaking around the house all night stealing my dads rated R movies and watching them. The movies were filled with nudity, sex, gore, etc. I'm sure all of you saw crazy shit when you were really young either on a screen or in real life, and I'm sure your kids have already too without you even knowing. And at school? Tell me you don't remember school as a little kid LOL
 
radiostationrep

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Timm said:
Shit kids are so dynamic though. I mean, I remember being 3 years old sneaking around the house all night stealing my dads rated R movies and watching them. The movies were filled with nudity, sex, gore, etc. I'm sure all of you saw crazy shit when you were really young either on a screen or in real life, and I'm sure your kids have already too without you even knowing. And at school? Tell me you don't remember school as a little kid LOL
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Timm, we all weren't little emo kids wanting kill people, fuck our moms, etc. Although I remember being in kindergarten, kissing girls and getting little boners.lol. Now go back to your room. The adults are talking.
 
Mac Jesus

Mac Jesus

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Timm still isn't old enough to be watching these movies, he's still sneaking around in his dads closet. Get out of the closet Timmy.
 
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