Open relationships

[I AM]

what if a chick said she been wit 50 men? would you be cool wit that?

id say " bitch I know you harboring virus, like prostitutes" haha I couldnt turn a girl main chick/wifey if I knew that... maybe a one nighter at best... maybe I got standerds

yeah, i wouldn't be cool with that. to me it shows a lack of respect for one's self to just whore it up like that. i guess i have a double standard but i'm not even close to 50 females and i don't really want to be. i've got a good friend who's probably around 40+ and he doesn't remember half of them. Now he looks back when we talk about my relationships and what he sees me goin through and he starts to realize what he's doin is shitty, for him at least.

i don't mind people doing what they want to do, but that doesn't mean i have to accept them into my life after they've done it.

N JAIL.....there's no MAYBE about it, I think you just have standards. And so do I. Can't turn a hoe into a housewife. And a hoe wont' always be around and they're usually only good for one thing.

@Karlie......I wasn't trying to be rude so I apologize if that's how I came off. I guess I just don't understand the desire to be single...I mean, it's not bad, but shit if I was 30+ I'd be startin to think about settling down--but that's just me. I hope that you have a prosperous and great life and that you find something/someone who makes you truly happy.

 

[synical dj]

word...
if you aint famous and youve fucked 50 chicks in your life, 25 of them bitches shouldnt have been touched in any circumstance. something is wrong.

 

[Sergeant Hustle]

@Karlie......I wasn't trying to be rude so I apologize if that's how I came off. I guess I just don't understand the desire to be single...I mean, it's not bad, but shit if I was 30+ I'd be startin to think about settling down--but that's just me. I hope that you have a prosperous and great life and that you find something/someone who makes you truly happy.

not trippin. everyone has their boundaries and opinions, that's what makes life interesting.

 

[Arson]

word...
if you aint famous and youve fucked 50 chicks in your life, 25 of them bitches shouldnt have been touched in any circumstance. something is wrong.

50 isnt shit.

 

[Lordbyron]

i might have issues and that's why i think about cheating when i'm in a relationship. or maybe it's just that i prefer having two relationships at once because one person doesn't fulfill all of my needs and i prefer variety.

Whatever it is I can relate to it... As a man it's refreshing to hear a woman admit that the urge to stray is so strong...

 

[Sergeant Hustle]

i think it's a human thing. or maybe it's an independent/self-esteem thing. a lot of women are co-dependent and feel like they aren't shit without a dude. i'm not one of those women, so therefore i guess i think more like a "man" when it comes to issues of relationship and fidelity. i have standard female wants and desires, but have officially trained my mind out of the traditional view of my role as a female and what that means. i'm not going to sit around the house getting pregnant by some dude who is out fucking half the city and thinking that's what i need to settle for. unless, of course, that what i want from that man. i just try to be more realistic about shit, because the old blueprint really isn't working, and the amount of women to men is far greater, therefore, we'll all be sharing dudes soon enough. two to three for each dude i'm sure.

 

[rekomstop]

yeah same here karlie.
i always liked being single, and having freedom, i never saw settling down as productive and actually a huge waste of time
lol..
if i'm going to be with someone, it won't be 'settling down' it will be starting a whole new adventure!
haha.

i'm extremely obsessed w/ being free, i dont partake in a lot of societies 'unwritten' rules for women, aka, i'm 'gross'

lol tho, that reminds me, my mom told me 'emily how are you EVER going to have a boyfriend? when your on a date, your gonna burp and gross him out and make him wanna throw up' n i said "well, i guess that will be a good test at who is right, im not going to be with someone who gets 'grossed' out by humanistic qualities anyways..so that 'date' can go fuck himself"

haha

 

[Lordbyron]

i think it's a human thing. or maybe it's an independent/self-esteem thing. a lot of women are co-dependent and feel like they aren't shit without a dude. i'm not one of those women, so therefore i guess i think more like a "man" when it comes to issues of relationship and fidelity. i have standard female wants and desires, but have officially trained my mind out of the traditional view of my role as a female and what that means. i'm not going to sit around the house getting pregnant by some dude who is out fucking half the city and thinking that's what i need to settle for. unless, of course, that what i want from that man. i just try to be more realistic about shit, because the old blueprint really isn't working, and the amount of women to men is far greater, therefore, we'll all be sharing dudes soon enough. two to three for each dude i'm sure.

Word... You're on some new millennium shit... Feminism 2.0...!

 

[Sergeant Hustle]

the old way of thinking no longer applies...as much as we'd all love to hang on to the past ways of dealing with shit, it's just not feasible these days.

 

[Talus]

Tradition has its place. And it is not definatly everywhere. sex does not have 100% to do or not to do with self respect. You can respect yourself and the people you have slept with however few or many they may be.

 

[Sergeant Hustle]

^^agreed, but only men get that luxury. a woman is considered a whore after sleeping with 4 people, no matter how much she respected each of them. it's sickening, the double-standard.

 

[Talus]

There is somewhat of a double standard I agree. But if you are open and honest about it and just straight up real no one can fuck with you.

 

[Sergeant Hustle]

i never said i didn't want kids...i'm just not going to settle for just whatever and be a kept woman by some dude who is out running through everyone in town while i'm at home with the kids. i see a lot of women in the predicament and they fight so hard to keep their men. it's just sad to watch.

 

[2-0-Sixx]

America really went backwards the last 30 years or so. In the mid to late 60's and 70's, the youth (which spread to middle aged america as well) was much more progressive then today. It was absolutely common and normal to have open relationships and people felt no pressure to be tied to one person. Marriage was something that many women, and men, openly opposed and it was viewed as almost barbaric. I guess now people refer to that time period as the sexual revolution, but I think it was more than just that, not only was it liberation for many people it was a revolutionary state of mind that existed and changed the entire mentality and views of all aspects of life, including sex and the relationships in general to people.

 

[Lordbyron]

America really went backwards the last 30 years or so. In the mid to late 60's and 70's, the youth (which spread to middle aged america as well) was much more progressive then today. It was absolutely common and normal to have open relationships and people felt no pressure to be tied to one person. Marriage was something that many women, and men, openly opposed and it was viewed as almost barbaric. I guess now people refer to that time period as the sexual revolution, but I think it was more than just that, not only was it liberation for many people it was a revolutionary state of mind that existed and changed the entire mentality and views of all aspects of life, including sex and the relationships in general to people.

I think AIDS killed the sexual revolution...

 

[2-0-Sixx]

No, because it wasn't just about having free sex, there was a mentality and state of mind that existed which is almost gone today. the "traditional family values" that many have attempted to push down our throats didn't exist, or wasn't as present (especially amongst the youth).

 

[Lordbyron]

No, because it wasn't just about having free sex, there was a mentality and state of mind that existed which is almost gone today. the "traditional family values" that many have attempted to push down our throats didn't exist, or wasn't as present (especially amongst the youth).

That was before my time... So I'm curious... What was the mentality like back then...?

 

[2-0-Sixx]

it was before my time too, but if you know just a little bit about the atmosphere and the events that were taking place (globally, not just isolated to the US) you'd should know it was completely different then today. It was a time of change and breaking from traditional ways. Civil rights movement, Vietnam war, Feminism, gay & lesbian liberation, sexual revolution, LSD, protests, drugs, economic recession, etc. all led to state of mind of creating change and desiring change, i.e it was a time of revolution in the minds of many in almost all aspects of life (breaking away from traditional marriage for example, expanding ones mind, desire to change the country/government/the world, interracial sex, family planning (i.e. birth control/abortion), equal rights, workers rights, etc., etc., etc.). It was very progressive and the US has gone backwards in many areas ever since.

Point being it was a very progressive time in history. Things that happened then, which were normal at that time, wouldn't be accepted today. For example there was a time in the 70's that if, let's say for example, a man or a woman were having trouble in their sex lives, doctors, or psychiatrists, could subscribe them to a sex therapist. Basically a woman, or man, would help them have sex (meaning they would have sex with them and the government would pay for this service).

Another example would be Harvey Milk, "the first openly gay man elected to any substantial political office in the history of the US" and would have been the first openly Gay mayor in the US, if he was not assassinated. He was loved by many and being gay, albeit for a short period of time, was not something that was frowned upon as much as it is today, or any time before, and it was accept, especially amongst the youth.

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

No, because it wasn't just about having free sex, there was a mentality and state of mind that existed which is almost gone today. the "traditional family values" that many have attempted to push down our throats didn't exist, or wasn't as present (especially amongst the youth).

I disagree here, only bcuasew divorces werent as abundent as they were in the 80's and 90's. It is trye that the mentality was there, but the values weer at an all time high as fas as people trying to "stick it out".

edit: yes, i am drunk, so i may have to edit this on another occasion.

 

[Sergeant Hustle]

Double standard usually has a negative connotation, and looks like in this case you agree. I disagree that this double standard is "wrong" or "disgusting" but i dont have any problem with you having your own opinion. I have talked to a few females about it. Basically, the two groups aren't comparable to me. Strike out the differences in math and spacial reasoning or responsibilty or sexual dimorphism. Look at the simple realities, a woman can have but a limited number of children, lets say 20, whereas a man can potentially have thousands, tens of thousands. Selectivity should and is more heavily scrutinized with women, each partner has a far higher potential value.

But even without considering that, i think it comes down to perceived attitudes. A lot of girls play the whole "i loved them all" lines or "each one was special" and after they fuck every boyfriend they have they try to convince themselves and the next dude in line that the former dude that was gettin the pussy wasnt shit to begin with. Ive know quite a few girls who play that game under these circumstance and basically they are the ones outing themselves as "whores."

you say only men get that luxury, and women dont....but according to who? And why do you feel like its this way in the first place if its so ridiculous in your eyes? Why are men attracted to women who haven't fucked multitudes of men? Women seem to be indifferent and in some cases the opposite, if they find a dude who pulls girls easy they think, "ooweee, he got something that they all want, even if i dont know what it is, i want it to, he an alpha, imma get him" everyone knows its easier to get pussy once you already got a girl. i think girl sees a dude who already has a woman and they figure another chick already did the homework and research for em so they just swoop in.

maybe some women just like having sex with different people.

being that we can control conception with a pill, latex or a shot, we need not be so selective with men. we can control whether or not they are the potential fathers of our children hormonally.

being that having kids in the 2008 world is often more of a financial liability than a financial asset, and therefore a hinderance to short-term survival, we do not have sex simply for reproductive purposes anymore. we do it for pleasure more than anything.

men aren't attracted to women who have fucked multitudes of men? i disagree. men are attracted to women who have fucked multitudes of men. after all, they've fucked multitudes of men, so someone's been hollering.