Open relationships
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i want a physically-alpha male who is attractive, fit, smart, and charismatic. i don't care about money, though money tends to come with these types. they can't have just money alone and be considered an alpha male in my eyes. i have to be sexually attracted to the rest of them. i'm not saying i'm going to run off and do this, i'm just saying my urge is to lock down that dude and have him impregnate me, not caring about the consequences of my broken heart and fatherless child. obviously, i'm human so i can stop myself from these urges, but my instinct is to do as such.
No they don't. Being smart/succesful isn't in direct correlation with being an Alpha male.
Its a lot more primal than you think.
For a good example of a modern Alpha male, think Tony Soprano
Haven't you ever watched Sopranos with girls who say stuff how about how they find Tony sexy? Its not because of his looks.
The Sopranos? Seriously? Thats TV......
But I guarantee Bill Gates could clock more ass than James Gandolfini any day.
As I see it the Alpha is the leader, the protector & the dominant force whos' claims on the best of things is dependent on his ability to advance the common interest and provide for the group. & in todays world brain power is what's required to do so not thick shoulders.
Oh and Karlie you don't want an Alpha male you want a boy toy real good looking great build super chatty, they're usually dumb as fuck.
Yes I realize it is TV
! I was picking someone that we could all relate to for the sake of the discussion. I could have thrown out someone I know personally, but that wouldn't do anyone else reading this any good.You are clearly using bad "because all circles are shapes, all shapes must then be circles" logic.
Alpha males would control resources (money) almost by definition, but controlling resources (money) does not necessarily make you an Alpha male. It can make you powerful, but there are specific personality characteristics that need to be adopted as well.
What you fail to realize is that although we are no longer living in the brush lands, psychological evolution takes thousands of years to change. Essentially we are still programmed for optimal survival and reproduction in the brush land. This is why people over eat, are deathly afraid of snakes but not cars, and have a thirst for alcohol; when those adaptations now happen to be detrimental rather than beneficial.
The same thing applies to our mating characteristics. Women's definition of an Alpha male today is not much different than it was 10,000 years ago. Sure our conscious and social pressures influences our decisions and perceptions, but at the base of it we are still very primal.
If you ask 100 women who they thought was more of an Alpha; Bill Gates or a TS-esque character, we all know what the answer would be.
What more evidence do you need than the only woman posting in this thread basically spelling it out for you;
i would rather fuck the alpha male across the street who works at a car wash but looks like sex and health over bill gates any day. it IS primal, yo. some dudes just look like they should be the father of my kid by the way they walk, talk and carry themselves. they could be driving a pinto, but if they got that swag, it's a wrap.
ahem i have A VAGINA AS WELL.
and i don't like assholes.
im friends w/ assholes, yes, but they never get to fuck me.
simple as that.
i'm in love w/ the most gentle, and sweet person ever.
i've never been CLOSE to in love w/ an asshole or want them to have my kids.
But then again, male bodies really don't turn me on, unless i am already in love w/ them, and i only fall in love if that person is completely considerate of me and all that comes w/ me.
=)
see i hate fake bitches for sure.
like as soon as i see barbie walkin around lookin orange n shit the first instinct that comes up is to talk shit rather than try to get with them even for a night.
the whole arguement between the sweet or asshole guy is that when a guy is sweet the chick feels like hes already figured out and there is no more 'thrill' to the game. But is she looking for somebody who will be there for her or for a game?
like i come as i am and if a chick gets bored of me cuz she is looking for some thug then she isnt who i want , and doesnt deserve me.
i look for people who arent just goin with the societal flow because society is temporary and ever changing, and in turn their personality.
they just need to be real to get my attention.
like as soon as i see barbie walkin around lookin orange n shit the first instinct that comes up is to talk shit rather than try to get with them even for a night.
the whole arguement between the sweet or asshole guy is that when a guy is sweet the chick feels like hes already figured out and there is no more 'thrill' to the game. But is she looking for somebody who will be there for her or for a game?
like i come as i am and if a chick gets bored of me cuz she is looking for some thug then she isnt who i want , and doesnt deserve me.
i look for people who arent just goin with the societal flow because society is temporary and ever changing, and in turn their personality.
they just need to be real to get my attention.
Agreed. Keeping an open mind is key and not just saying, "I refuse to do this or that," cause then you're putting limits on the relationship. With some people that works and with some it doesn't.
Every situation in life should be dealt with on an individual basis, well, as far as relationships go that is. Nobody is exactly the same.
As long as you talk about what you want or what will work then that's what matters.
In the end, open relationships seem to end without any real committment. Most people that I have met start a relationship with the hopes of committment. Either way, more than likely one person in that open relationship isnt' as cool with it as the other and that person who's not cool with it probably wants more committment. So then it ends in one person wanting more than the other and that's why it ends, in my opinion.
But really, what does everyone define as an "open relationship,"? A relationship where you can go out and fuck whoever you want and still come back to that one person....or is it that you can go out and DO what you want (minus fucking other people) and still come back to that open relationship?
I think fucking other people and then having that one person to go back and fuck is more of a security thing than anything else. If you can fuck all those other people that one person shouldnt' matter that much, and if they do you're heading towards not wanting/not being in an open relationship--if it's defined as being able to fuck who you want while still having that one person you fuck more than anyone else.
I think that's fucking stupid, for me, but for others, it's whatever works. I don't like to fuck females that are fucking other dudes or even flirting with other guys. It shows a major lack of loyalty and respect but that's just how I work.
Every situation in life should be dealt with on an individual basis, well, as far as relationships go that is. Nobody is exactly the same.
As long as you talk about what you want or what will work then that's what matters.
In the end, open relationships seem to end without any real committment. Most people that I have met start a relationship with the hopes of committment. Either way, more than likely one person in that open relationship isnt' as cool with it as the other and that person who's not cool with it probably wants more committment. So then it ends in one person wanting more than the other and that's why it ends, in my opinion.
But really, what does everyone define as an "open relationship,"? A relationship where you can go out and fuck whoever you want and still come back to that one person....or is it that you can go out and DO what you want (minus fucking other people) and still come back to that open relationship?
I think fucking other people and then having that one person to go back and fuck is more of a security thing than anything else. If you can fuck all those other people that one person shouldnt' matter that much, and if they do you're heading towards not wanting/not being in an open relationship--if it's defined as being able to fuck who you want while still having that one person you fuck more than anyone else.
I think that's fucking stupid, for me, but for others, it's whatever works. I don't like to fuck females that are fucking other dudes or even flirting with other guys. It shows a major lack of loyalty and respect but that's just how I work.
Yes but none of your posts are really relevant to anyone other than you and SeriousThug. Everything you post is "I blah blah" "Me blah blah" "I blah blah" "In my life blah blah"
Great you don't like assholes. The idea that Alpha males are assholes is really just a misguided generalization anyways.
Great you don't feel the need to conform to societies definition of what is a healthy relationship. If you really didn't care, you wouldn't spend so much time trying not to conform, you would just simple not conform.
Great you are in love with the most gentle and sweet person ever. That doesn't mean you have somehow managed to elude your evolutionarily selected reproductive strategy. Like I said in an earlier post, in species (humans included) females have the choice to make between selecting a mate who is low in status but unlikely to have other mates and therefore able to give more time/emotional support/etc vs high status males who will not be able to give as much time/emotional support and who may have other mates.
Great male bodies don't turn you on. A female being attracted to other females has its history in evolutionary psychology as well.
Great. Great. Great. We now know how all these issues apply to you.
We are talking about the human species, as a species; not rekomstop and her life.
