QUESTION ABOUT FUNERALS

[J-FUNKTION]

got word today that a childhood friend that ive known since first grade died in a crazy accident last tuesday.

my question is, would it be disrespectful to show up for the time needed to give my condolences and pay my last respects, and leave?

i really cant stand funerals..they break me down mentally..

thanks for any and all input..

 

[Pansas]

I think just showing up is enough breh. That alone shows respect. I've gone to many funerals too and don't like them. I had a childhood friend die in a car accident too about 8 years ago and I didn't show up to anything. I just couldn't do it

 

[DJ Mark 7]

As stated, just showing up to show that u give a shit is what means most.

 

[timebomb]

do what feel right to you..paying respect by showing up should be enough...

 

[fillyacup]

as stated.

if anyone says it is then they there for the wrong reasons..its about paying respects in a way that you are not comfortable with, but can handle.

rest in peace to your friend

 

[J-FUNKTION]

thats yall..thats exactly how i was thinking i just wanted to be sure..and yall are 100% right..

 

[Timm]

if u just want to show up and then leave hit up the wake

 

[Timm]

if u just want to show up and then leave hit up the wake

 

[HIM]

I dont think your childhood homie will be mad....just sayin...

 

[J-FUNKTION]

^^yeah man thats what another one of my homies was sayin..he wouldnt want us to be down...hed want us to go out and celebrate the good times and memories..

 

[fatman]

Do what you're comfortable with. Whatever you decide isn't going to take away the friendship ya'll had.Rest in peace to your friend.

 

[Ez-Roo]

Even if you couldent even go its not disrespectful its just what you could or could not handle. If anyone had something to say about your time of appearance their mind is in the wrong place to begin with. Your connection is with your friend through God no one else matters. sorry for ya loss.

 

[Stealth]

The only person who's opinion matters on the subject is dead. Pay your respects however you want. But if you can't do a funeral, hit up the wake. I've run out of a funeral before because I couldn't handle it, and that's way more disrespectful. You don't wanna make a scene cuz that shit is not about you.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

Don't go at all.
I never do.

You just tell people it's too hard for you or whatever. Eventually you will just be known as the guy who doesn't attend funerals. It's just something you don't subscribe to, and they will just leave it alone.

 

[Dirt E. Needlez]

no, disrespectful would be havin a sideshow at the damn cemetary like Shoreview Shan and them did, filming rap video at funerals and shit

now that....thats disrespectful


showing up and paying your respects/saying your goodbyes is what counts...

btw Im sorry to hear about your loss homie, keep ya head up....

 

[Gemini]

People deal with things / funerals in different ways. The lame / most common excuse is, "I don't like attending funerals." PLEASE!!!! Name me somebody that does?

Gather your thoughts and words together and deal with it how you see fit, but don't open your mouth and say something typical. It will just sound like a lame excuse and make you look stupid.

 

[DJ Mark 7]

Don't go at all.
I never do.

You just tell people it's too hard for you or whatever. Eventually you will just be known as the guy who doesn't attend funerals. It's just something you don't subscribe to, and they will just leave it alone.

I gotta disagree...If you don't go man, you'll live in regret. It's your LAST CHANCE to pay respects to a loved one. Don't hide from difficult things in your life, you gotta face them.

 

[savage]

I don't like to go to them, but I do just so I can see their face one last time. Last funeral I went to was my homies last year, that shit was difficult as fuck.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

People deal with things / funerals in different ways. The lame / most common excuse is, "I don't like attending funerals." PLEASE!!!! Name me somebody that does?

Gather your thoughts and words together and deal with it how you see fit, but don't open your mouth and say something typical. It will just sound like a lame excuse and make you look stupid.

So basically, you do things that you don't want to or don't say what you feel in fear of people thinking you are stupid.

Eventually you may get fed up with people expecting you to do things or expecting you to go places just because they invited you. You may find yourself saying "I don't want to" and doing things that you want, or that make you happy.

If you don't like going to funerals (which you said yourself), then don't go. The fact you do go when you don't want to, in my point of view is even dumber.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

I gotta disagree...If you don't go man, you'll live in regret. It's your LAST CHANCE to pay respects to a loved one. Don't hide from difficult things in your life, you gotta face them.

I pay respect to them when they are here. While everyone treated them like shit, I didn't. While everyone judged them, I didn't. When they needed help, I helped. When no one visited them, I did.

Now they are dead and people want to make amends with themselves.