IN LOVE WITH A STRIPPER: Could you *seriously* date a stripper?

[Rumpelstiltskin]

So...me and my girl of 5 years...thought we were gonna get married...broke up in April.

Since then, I started dating a stripper. I had hella reservations about the whole thing. Knew she manipulated dudes for money, was concerned about looks, how much cash a guy has, all that shit. I was completely skeptical about a lot of shit.

Turns out she's one of the coolest girls I've ever met, I'm extremely happy right now, and she's making me love life again. It started out as a rebound, but I do like her, and I trust her. Not gonna get into too many details cuz I don't feel like putting my personal life on blast right now, but the girl is a 10, and she keeps it real as fuck.

Before I met her, I'd answer this question with a FUCK NO but all I know is my life is great right now, and she's a big part of it.

Snap out of it.

Watch how much she listens when you ask her to stop stripping because you love her.
She won't give 2 shits and you'll just be at home all mopey.

It's just a rebound.

Falling for a stripper is beyond me...

 

[Stealth]

Like I said, I'm not putting any more of my personal life on blast than I have to, but you'd be surprised what you can learn about people once you stop pretending to know what you're talking about and actually give someone a chance. We all got a past.

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

Snap out of it.

Watch how much she listens when you ask her to stop stripping because you love her.
She won't give 2 shits and you'll just be at home all mopey.

It's just a rebound.

Falling for a stripper is beyond me...

It has happened, obviously, and turned out very well for some. Just because YOU had a sour experience, doesnt the next man will. Stop throwing your salt on others, sour puss.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

I'm not knocking you. I am just advising that you eventually will NOT be OK with her stripping.
Fall in love with a stripper, fine. You can't help who you fall for.
Let her continue to strip? That's definitely not OK. There are going to be a handful of reasons you are going to ask her to stop eventually (if you are serious) and you're going to be crushed if she doesn't.

We all have a past. That doesn't mean we should continue to do the same things in the future.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

It has happened, obviously, and turned out very well for some. Just because YOU had a sour experience, doesnt the next man will. Stop throwing your salt on others, sour puss.

I've never fallen for a stripper. I've never even attempted to date one, let alone been to a full blown strip club tipping dollars.

I also don't buy refurbs.
Just a personal preference.

 

[Stealth]

There's a lot of assumptions there. I'm not gonna sit here and talk about what sacrifices she's made to make this work, or why I trust her, cuz the inevitable response would be "and you believe her?" But the truth is, before I dated her, I really had no fucking clue what I was talking about...just made generalizations about "strippers" as a group of people..when in reality, they're all different, all have different motiviations and reasons for doing things, and I still personally think most of them are whores. But I'm good.

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

I've never fallen for a stripper. I've never even attempted to date one, let alone been to a full blown strip club tipping dollars.

I also don't buy refurbs.
Just a personal preference.

LOL...then why are you even in the convo? Thats like saying "hamburgers are nasty, never eat one, you will DIE! Nah but for real though, ive never eaten a hamburger." The fuck?

Youre just going off assumptions and stereotypes, which is silly for any grown man/woman. Thats something we are supposed to grow out of as people at some point.

 

[Spitz Unlimited]

So...me and my girl of 5 years...thought we were gonna get married...broke up in April.

Since then, I started dating a stripper. I had hella reservations about the whole thing. Knew she manipulated dudes for money, was concerned about looks, how much cash a guy has, all that shit. I was completely skeptical about a lot of shit.

Turns out she's one of the coolest girls I've ever met, I'm extremely happy right now, and she's making me love life again. It started out as a rebound, but I do like her, and I trust her. Not gonna get into too many details cuz I don't feel like putting my personal life on blast right now, but the girl is a 10, and she keeps it real as fuck.

Before I met her, I'd answer this question with a FUCK NO but all I know is my life is great right now, and she's a big part of it.

PICS OR IT NEVER HAPPENED!!!

lol someone had to do it

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

LOL...then why are you even in the convo? Thats like saying "hamburgers are nasty, never eat one, you will DIE! Nah but for real though, ive never eaten a hamburger." The fuck?

Youre just going off assumptions and stereotypes, which is silly for any grown man/woman. Thats something we are supposed to grow out of as people at some point.

Why do I have to actually perform an act in order to give an opinion on one?
I guess I can't advise someone not to rob a bank, unless I've either been arrested for it or got away with it.

Falling in love with a stripper is straight pathetic.
How's that for a short version. A "grown man" should understand that one...

 

[bigface]

There's a lot of assumptions there. I'm not gonna sit here and talk about what sacrifices she's made to make this work, or why I trust her, cuz the inevitable response would be "and you believe her?" But the truth is, before I dated her, I really had no fucking clue what I was talking about...just made generalizations about "strippers" as a group of people..when in reality, they're all different, all have different motiviations and reasons for doing things, and I still personally think most of them are whores. But I'm good.

Real niggas/men do what they want to do and don't care about what people say. As long as your happy and taking care of your business play on playa. Hooker, Stripper, doctor, lawyer, or fast food worker as long as you look good, like to fuck, are about your money, keep it real, and don't bring drama my way I can fuck with you. A woman that keeps it real and has your back is hard to find. Just keep it real yourself, have fun, and enjoy your time with your girl.

 

[Mr. Nice Guy]

It has happened, obviously, and turned out very well for some. Just because YOU had a sour experience, doesnt the next man will. Stop throwing your salt on others, sour puss.

You know enough about psychology to know that even when it does work out, it does so by emotional deficiencies from both parties that form co-dependencies when combined together such as the need to be needed or control and chaos patterns etc.

 

[Gas One]

i live (BUT NOT IN LOVE) with a stripper. ever since the BZ moved in theres been drama in the house. drugs being stolen, cigarettes stolen, weed stolen, money stolen, having to let her drunk ass in the pad at 4am cuz she left her keys, getting peered in my window and shit, its just turned into some tweeker shit. hella clepto shit. and strippers are always stealing shit at the strip club, whether its other girls money, clothes, shit from the lost and found, soemthing. its something about some of them bitches ways of living life. they dont see boundaries the same as some of us, and definately dont view privacy the same. when they walk around naked at work all day, you dont take into consideration over your roomates who dont strip, whom may be naked and DONT want you to be all in the window like bruh man from the 5th flo.

i know some people who have had what they claim to be great relationships with strippers, i just technically dont look at strippers as something i want. maybe i see alot of the bad sides of shit, and chicks that strip that actually dont have they shit together, and are on that downward spiral in which they decided to strip in the first place..money issues life issues something..thats not every bitch that strips tho and im sure some are cool..but theres alot of scummy uninteresting stripper bitches that PROBABLY ruin it for whatever good ones exist. i think its the fact that their jobs are based on competing for said guy to sit on their laps for money, manipulating said guy out of extracting his cash, all the drama between the girls at the strip club whether behind the scenes or not, youd think that personality and way of living would bleed into their normal, day to day life.

i know ppl that have been jacked by strippers, just on some stupid shit....once i was getting xanax off the homies friend who was a stripper, im not the type to fuck with em.. and what happened? they were fake. i think i gave her 12 dollars, how petty. youd think a chick who dances for dollars would be above small licks like 12 bucks. shit like that. i just be thinkin its in they nature to act shady for money. homie got jacked for his tools, decided fuck strippers. shit like that. not cool. you dont deal w shit like that w regular broads lol

but, i say do what you want in life! you go girl, its yo world. just not for me.
i dont even think i could pimp, i just could not put up with that much drama.

i made this thread before i got put into the living with a stripper (actually i live with more than one, one of thems cool) situation, so i didnt have a personal opinion on it. now, i see the bad parts...and man some of them hoes are just shady. i guess at the end of the day its gon depend on what type of dude you are, what type of chick youre looking for and what type of relationship you want out of it. it can definitely work for some, but i'd probably say logically if youre looking for the wifey type, you probably dont wanna pick your prospective wifeys out the strip club. they say you cant turn a hoe into a housewife, right? whats your take on that?

i guess theres good ones..and theres bad ones...cant really put them all in one label

shit good looking on contributing to the thread its entertainment to read the entire siccness community weigh in on a subject, thats what we here for..to talk shit out when bored

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

Why do I have to actually perform an act in order to give an opinion on one?

In some cases...YES. Would you give advise on drugs even though you have never done them?

I guess I can't advise someone not to rob a bank, unless I've either been arrested for it or got away with it.

Well, seeing as there are no negative stereotypes towards bank robbers...

Falling in love with a stripper is straight pathetic.
How's that for a short version. A "grown man" should understand that one...

Im gonna go the Stealth route and not indulge my personal business, but youre so far off base its hilarious. Keep living in that box, bud...

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

You know enough about psychology to know that even when it does work out, it does so by emotional deficiencies from both parties that form co-dependencies when combined together such as the need to be needed or control and chaos patterns etc.

While that can happen, its not always the case. Again, situations vary. Not every stripper was beat and raped by her stepdad. Ive met a wide array of strippers over the years and while most have issues, there are a handful that are literally paying their way through college or making money to jump start an independent business. Drug use is rampant in the industry, because many of those women hate their life and need to get by.

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

There's a lot of assumptions there. I'm not gonna sit here and talk about what sacrifices she's made to make this work, or why I trust her, cuz the inevitable response would be "and you believe her?" But the truth is, before I dated her, I really had no fucking clue what I was talking about...just made generalizations about "strippers" as a group of people..when in reality, they're all different, all have different motiviations and reasons for doing things, and I still personally think most of them are whores. But I'm good.

A man with a brain....revelation.

Some people really need to grow up and open their mind.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

In some cases...YES. Would you give advise on drugs even though you have never done them?

Yes. You think a doctor has tried every medication he has prescribed? That's the worst example you could have possibly given. Drugs cause chemical reactions. Trials and clinical studies are being performed and I would simply be passing on scientific data. Or my mistake, do you mean recreational drugs? Didn't know we were on that level now. Try again.

Im gonna go the Stealth route and not indulge my personal business, but youre so far off base its hilarious. Keep living in that box, bud...

Your personal business obviously justifies you having forms of affection (family, ex's, friends, etc.) for strippers, which I may add is one step below full prostitution, while in fact a fair amount of strippers solicit sex on the side.

The gap in our opinion is way too large it's not really worth discussing. We're on complete opposite sides on this one.

 

[Darkshowdown]

IDC A ACTIVE STRIPPER ISNT WIFEY MATERIAL.


THEY OK FOR A QUIK FUCK OR GANG BANG BUT THATS IT.

 

[S.SAVAGE]

they say you cant turn a hoe into a housewife, right? whats your take on that?

My take is that this statement is 120% correct.

But you can sure have fun with one!

 

[Stealth]

Yes. You think a doctor has tried every medication he has prescribed? That's the worst example you could have possibly given. Drugs cause chemical reactions. Trials and clinical studies are being performed and I would simply be passing on scientific data. Or my mistake, do you mean recreational drugs? Didn't know we were on that level now. Try again.

My older brother is a doctor in Philly. Had to do a rotation with drug addicts and drug rehab. It's surprising how little he knew about street drugs, addiction, etc. There's some things a textbook can't inform you on. Book smarts and street smarts. People ought to have both. The fact of the matter is, no matter how much you think you understand an issue, speaking on it without having any real world experience can lead to some incorrect assumptions. You are putting an entire group of people into one category and making a broad generalization (or a generalization about broads). Not that I'm getting defensive about your opinion, couldn't care in the least. But, like the saying goes, don't trust the man who says he knows everything, trust the man who says he knows nothing. Or, as the Jedi hypocritically say, "Sith speak in absolutes".

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

The fact of the matter is, no matter how much you think you understand an issue, speaking on it without having any real world experience can lead to some incorrect assumptions. You are putting an entire group of people into one category and making a broad generalization (or a generalization about broads).

In all respect that's why common sense exists.
Certain things are common sense and you really don't have to experience it to speak on it. Some people have it and some people really lack it. My common sense tells me not to fall in love with strippers. This isn't rocket science.

It's not like I'm giving advice on how to rebuild a transmission, what sites to see in Europe or what kind of scuba gear you should buy on your trip to Maui.

Chances are that falling in love with a stripper will result in something negative.
Look at Gas, and he just lives with one. So much dirt comes along with the territory.

Certain things you are just supposed to know. Imagine introducing your girlfriend to your mother, sister, aunt, etc. and they ask her what she does. Imagine having a child with her, and your little girl asks her mother what she used to do. You now have to worry about which guy she is dancing with, is she cheating, does she make extra money on the side. Let's say you completely trust her. What about stalkers? There is just so much baggage that I find it extremely difficult (in my opinion not even worth the effort) to find pro's in a stripper that outweigh the con's. Speaking long term of course...