Ugh shit dude, that's way worse than I got it. I'm sorry to hear you suffered at the hands of cultural tradition and racism.
Her mom is big into debating, and I often rub people the wrong way when they want to argue with me. I've made it a point not to argue over bullshit and not fight because someone else is willing, and she's had a few times where she'd want to argue and I directed the topic back to how great her daughter is instead of my opinion about Guillermo del Toro's artistic vision(no shit, she really wanted to argue with me because I liked Pan's Labyrinth).
Her mom supports her, but not enough to be committed to anything she does, so I try not to be surprised that her mom hates me. Those kind of non-committal attitudes toward the things that interest her can be turned into disdain and anger when directed into an actual person. What her mom fails to see is how much I keep her moving forward, even when I want to be selfish as fuck.
The good thing is her dad really likes me and he's exceptionally intelligent(just earned his doctorate in history), and her grandmother thinks I'm a great man, so if mom doesn't want to join in, she's just going to be bitter for a long time.
I do hate being put in a tight spot like that, but I can survive and won't let anybody get my back against the wall.
"Never let them see you sweat."