damn...hearing about your harem of regulars makes me feel like a chump
You are not a chump. These two are the only ones out of ~10 who stuck around since I started dating after i ended my marriage.
For all i know any day now they will want kids and give me an ultimatum.
There were others before them who lost their shit. One lady I was seeing regularly for a couple months got pissed when I mentioned to her that I was getting a divorce. She thought "even as just a friend, i should have disclosed the fact that I've been married". I said hold up, i dont owe you shit. how dare you make my divorce about you.
I dropped her and she started sending me messages every few weeks talking shit or acting hurt saying i used her blah blah and proof of how i used her is in how quickly i dropped her.
Others will say "ya im not looking to settle either, we can just be chill and go with the flow", when really, they are playing the waiting game. These motherfuckers will hang around acting like the most perfect woman just so "when" i decide to settle again they will be there ready to turn this into some sort of romantic novel.
I tell those women "I will never settle down, and if I one day change my mind and settle down it will not be with anyone I am currently talking to."
nobody got time for these games, man.