well i have watched this whole situation pan out and i think you are far from the victim here. and this was what im talking about, right or wrong people take this shit serious, so its not always wise to run off at the mouth, im not pointing you out cuz i think everyone here has done it at one point in time, but you have to remember that if you run off at the mouth or if you argue with someone even defending yourself you have to remember there is a chance that it will eventually move past the internet. you always run the risk of that whenever you engage with someone on here, especially in a seattle based forum, the world aint that big.
and you are right, you can conversate while still giving respect, but you need to portray that respect, because you might feel that you aer showing respect but the person you are talking to might not feel the same way, hence the situation escalating.....