i have way more important shit to worry about, and ill let the people whom know him dictate whether or not they find it bothersome or not
who am i to be niguardian?
but if you feel im sidestepping your question, upon moving to SF in the late 90's, the 'nigga' thing used by different races was something i had to get used to. if we wanna take it farther, the way they dress was even a factor. it took a good year or two to get used to. for a while i took it like blatant dick riding, after a while i decided it was just the spread of urban culture amongst the US and in bigger cities is a norm, and if you were birthed into hip hop culture i cant tell you to not be influenced by the spearhead of said culture.
but upon living in the bay, ive never had one racial encounter. i cant say the same for san diego.
at the end of the day, theres a way to respect people and theres a way not to. and the way a word is used will be the judge of alot of that. nigga is a slightly more acceptable term than lets say...porch monkey...which you might get a percentage of your face removed for saying 100 percent of the time.
to me if a person feels comfortable saying something im not gonna tell them to stop saying it but if i can hear a nervous energy in saying it, il, definitately point out the shit sounds forced, or unnatural..cuz im not the type that really wants corniness around me.
only can worry about my circle....ill let everyone else worry about theirs yaknow
its safe to say that a person who says it amongst their friends is not going out of town to a city and ghetto they dont know full of blacks they dont know and call THEM 'nigga'...because theres some risk in that. so at the end of the day, its said within boundaries. its when it gets wreckless that i can no longer cosign the shit, because that may get someone hurt.