Question for the married folk

[radiostationrep]

there's tough times.

but in reality going out, drinking, and fucking gets old. having a wife really on your side is a wonderful thing. look around at all the materialistic things that alot of relationships are built on, those are the unhappy ones. i know at the end of the day what i have is real, not what i can give, although now i am a great provider and father. it wasnt always like that. we have our spats, but who doesn't. if words and little bullshit is enough to throw in the towel, it wasnt meant to be from the begining. having children changed me in a way i never thought i would. now its about what the kids think, fuck a bitch ass nigga. putting my kids to bed and laying down with a woman that has my back at the end of the day is a great thing. when you find a real one hold on to her, these kinda of women can keep it realer than the so called "homies".

 

[ayo4yayo]

marriage sounds cool but so many problems and you never know whats going to happen. your wife could leave you, pass away, or be fucking someone behind your back. you could be old and single no matter how hard u try to be with someone because they could pass away. I just smoke weed and stay single. The way I look at it I would rather be lonely than to have all the problems that come with a relationship.

fuck that id rather have problems, try to overcome them and learn from it. Life is full of obstacles. If your lonely as fuck and didnt have nobody, youll end up being depressed, become a raging alcoholic and/or drug addict and end up killing yourself because youll feel so dam miserable.

 

[Artistic]

is this still the siccness?

 

[PhantomOfFunk]

having a wife is dope. i look at it like this. i partied hard until i was 26. that was plenty of partying. you name it, it got done. from drugs being around to bad bitches and everything in between. but i got tired of it and needed to get right and my wife allowed me to be myself and be my best friend. when the world was dieing around me she held me down. never thought a chick would be my best friend, and look now...... all these dudes i thought were og's and cool as fuck turned out to be bitches and assholes and my wife ended up being what makes me happy.

i traded in street cred for fatherhood and blowing money drinking and fucking bitches for the realest chick i ever had.

i think i made out ok.

but i will say marriage isnt for everyone. all the posts above cover it. but when you ready to settle down, you will know.

real talk

 

[Vamps]

is this still the siccness?

Yeah. It's just that a lot of us have been on here over 10 years now. I started posting when I was 17 and I'm 28 now. Shit changes..

 

[Artistic]

i was just joking homie. i thought this was a dope thread.

 

[Vamps]

Naw it's just a trip..

From baby nuts and guts to baby showers and bottles..

 

[I. Cold]

Im def not getting married anytime soon. I feel like maybe my girl is thinking shit or get off the pot since its been a lil over 4 years now... But I still feel years away from that point.

I think what bothers me the most is just the thought of losing your freedom. And I dont mean freedom to fuck anyone I want, I mean that plus everything else. I can do whatever I want, when I want. I love that feeling. I love feeling like I can do anything without be scolded or judged.

When I imagine myself married (to anyone that is), all I feel is dread. All I can picture is me walking through the front door, baby crying, wife bitching, nothin rockin at all. Walk in and the wife is making some shitty meal that I could make better myself. Then having to sit down and tell her about my dad. I'd hate that. I hate talking about my day. And I hate listening to other people talk about their day... unless theres something worth talking about...

gas, how old is the "old guy in the club"? 25? 30? 35?

I think getting married at 30 should be standard.

 

[3xLaZY]

a lot of wisdom in this thread...honestly, a lot of people are saying some real ass shit...

 

[510hustlin510]

Dutch and Gas said it best...... One thing for sure though if your girl is already NOT the BUSINESS she will not BECOME the BUSINESS once you get married. Dont get married because you feel you have to. Do it because you want to because if its broke before you get married its gonna stay broke once your married maybe even worse. Dont settle dont sell yourself short your wife should be THE BADDEST BITCH out period to you. Fuck what every one else thinks but to you she should be the best thing going........

 

[JoMoDo]

IF you have the right woman, and IF YOU are willing to WORK, marriage can be very rewarding.

BUT, if you can't leave that macho pride, or aren't willing to take a bite of humble pie every once in a while, it's prolly not for you.

 

[Mr. Nice Guy]

LOL this thread is a trip


Why do so many of you think that;

Not getting married = lonely
Getting married = not lonely

like the opposite are mutually exclusive to each other. There are a lot of unmarried people out there who are quite content with their lives, and a shit ton of married people who are lonely.

Also, not getting married doesn't mean you sit home by yourself in a wife beater, drink, and stay posting in eye candy lol, it just means you don't get married. You can still have many fulfilling relationships for years at a time without getting married.

The real problem with marriage is that it is a social/religious institution that doesn't work because it goes against millions of years of evolved psychological adaptations.

I am not saying don't get married because if that is what makes you happy than do it; but on the other hand don't just do it because you think that is what you are "supposed" to do.

 

[blade179]

marriage is all about compramise. you should have the same goals in life, and have a lot in common. My wife is usually the calm one in confrontations and i am the one wanting to rip someones head off. my wife panicks in an emergency and i am cool calm and normally take charge. we tend to balance each other a lot. i think people should wait until their late 20's or early 30's to get married too. most people in their mid 20's still don't have shit figured out themselves. you need to know what you want out of life before you drag someone else along for the ride.