It's obvious most of you speak well about rich white people while knowing nothing about them. The amount they spoil their kids is often simply proportionate to their means. Many have a very prudent, rational approach to what and how they give to their kids.
What you are seeing on TV and what you do sometimes see in rich white homes is a by-product of the new educated, liberal aesthetic of super-sensitive, overly emotional parenting. They don't believe in much firm discipline. Lacking clear-cut rules about the role of discipline and the correct implementation that often exist as unstated truths in lower-income and minority cultures, they often suffer from very complex interpersonal parenting conflicts and issues over essentially small things.