well im jumping in this a little late but here is my take on "the system" i have been through it in many different ways, but ill use the last instance as an example, cuz that was more of a "grown-up" situation which i can garuntee 99.99% of you never had to go through. i had taken custody of my daughter because her mother was dating an abusive drug addict which in turn, turned her into an abusive drug addict. they were heavily on drugs and both going in and out of jail, so i had taken my daughter and then her mom disapeared for a year and a half. for a year and a half i was stretched beyond my means from a "flawed system" i am the father of my child, my name is on the birth cirtificate, i have been there since day one, paid my child support on time everytime, BUT for some strange reason, the state will not stop child support garnishments unless i can provide proof of the change in circumstance....well how is one supposed to do that? she didnt work, she didnt have her own place? so even though i am providing for my child 100% of the costs of living, i am still paying her mother 305 dollars a month for child support, and no, i didnt owe any back support.
THEN since i had no other way besides the birth cirtificate to prove i was the father, i couldnt get any help from the state for childcare, i mean hell what does a birth cirtificate prove, so now i am paying 700.00 a month for daycare. so now i am 1005.00 in the hole a month. so in order to get these "rights" that any father SHOULD have, i now have to pay crazy money for tests and documents and all this shit to get my rights.
now we go to the courts, i spent 1 year doing all my court footwork myself, missed countless hours of work going to court dates and all that, and i shit you not the last day possible, 15 minutes before they signed the paperwork to give me custody, the mom shows up and fucks everything up, so now i am having to come out of pocket 6,000.00 TO START! for a lawyer just to keep my child from going back to a known drug addict who abandened her child.....needless to say i spent alot more money and alot more time to get custody....but the kicker is, this happens all the time to good fathers who do the right thing, they are fucked in the ass while the women can do what they want and they still get the benifit of the doubt.
there is a "system"
the "system" is flawed
look at the facts of the system, the system might work for you, but i garuntee that the system wont work for 250,000 other people who are in a close situation, all because of a certain date, or you make a little too much money even though you are making 8 dollars an hour and have rent car food clothes daycare, you didnt turn something in on time cuz you have a million other things you have to get done so now you are cut off, you have to wait 1 fucking year to get on section 8 cuz you are a guy and you are in a non emergency even though you obviously cant afford the shitty house you are in. i mean its all spelled out, the system could be alot better, if you want help you will find it one way or the other but how long is it gonna take? are you gonna have the necissary documents? do you make enough money? do you not make enough money? can you prove your situation? blah blah blah.....people who need help deserve it, they dont deserve to get shuffled, delayed, turned away for any reason whatsoever.
BUT on the flip side there are alot of people that do abuse the system and that is one reason why it is the way it is, i just think it could be alot better and more effective and get its job done easier......i have spoken.....lol