I feel you, man. Even tho i'm black and have a lot of so-called "militant" views on the govt. and such, I can understand why it upsets white folks that aren't on the bullshit mentality of mainstream America.
Sadly what a lot of people fail to realize, is that the majority of "mainstream America" really isn't that racist. But then again I'm in New York and can't speak for the rest of the country. I don't know a single person who's opinion I have any respect for that is racist, and the two or three people that I can think of that have ever said anything racist in my presence have a worthless point of view 90% of the time.
Old people are straight up racist though, I'll give you that. But yeah, hearing people say shit like that seems to hurt minorities more than help. It puts out the idea (to whites that aren't racist) that minorities would prefer to be discriminated against rather than see what's truly around them just so they have someone to blame when they somehow fail in life, if they do.
I don't know if that makes sense or if it came out right at all, but I'm not sure how I'm to blame for anybody being poor... Shit I've been poor too, and it wasn't because my white neighbor made me that way.