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[SLOWPOKE]

dam your right bomber,....but i gotta do it in a way that makes it look like shes wrong for rasieng her voive like the next time she does that i gotta say "look lil one this is how not to tal;k to peopple cause they will tune you out and not get your point across" thanks i have been too lax on that,....thanks for helping me see that,....dam and see has been having a look on her face every time i talk with her,....

 

[Palmer]

Congrats Slowpoke!

 

[SLOWPOKE]

last night was a night full of drama,...ok here we go,...

a few weeks back she yelled at aunt and was punished and since she dont wanna hit the kid i said lets have her do extra chores around the house so trash ans dishes duty for 2 weeks right?...ok she only had 4 days to go left on her punishment and she had to act up,...my lady will let her use the dish washing machine and i'm like that aint no punishment make her do it by hand she thouhgt about it and i was right she there lil one is washing dishes all kinda wrong pouring dish soap and rubing it and she got quit a few dishes to wash and i'm like naw here lets do it like this pour a lil soap in the bowel lather up then wash all the dishes then rise them,....right?

well she gets all of them done except 2 bowels and a spatula and i watching her cause she is so use to the dish washer machine at the "compound for kids" and then she throws the pan down and started yelling at me saying "i'm so use to being prasied for doing a good job,..i dont feel suported i mean yuo can tell me clean this better or i can do this better,..." and i'm just trying not to laff in her face cause i know how kids are and i say well if you know it needs to be done then why do i have to suport you in doing it (the countsalrs use to play that chit "your doing a good job doing you punishment great work, i suport you ") and i say dont be yelling at me , what in the month or so that i have been housing you feeding you and teaching you right from wrong and you have yet to tell me thank you,...wheres my suport? (i had to say that cause now i'm turning on her for praise thats really rightfuly due right?...man i was holing in my laff so much when i said that cause i know kids dont care about bills work a dam comute and chit but it was funny to say) then she says,...well i have problums , i have issuses, i'm stressed (all these medical terms that she learned from the place she was at,..)
i am still not trying to laff cause i see that she only has a few dishes to go but yet she wanted to go to her room,...then aunt gets up from a phone call and starts hard balling her then lil one starts crying now i really wanna laff cause i know she is really trying to play us and her get out of doing her chores and so after all that aunt tells her to go to her room i cant cook cause the pans i wanna use are not clean so i said all she is gonna eat for dinner is bottom romen (top ramen but i call it that cause if that s all you got then you are at the bottom of your barrel) and i'm thinking this girl dont run the show i aint bottom for dinner so i made it a point to have her eat a bottom and i said cuse you did not wash the dishs for us to eat you get this but i and aunt are gonna eat out cause i want you to know whats it like to no work no eat and if you was to wash the dishes then i could cook but since you wanna act up and not do the job then

 

[BOMBSAC]

i wouldnt let no kid wash my dishes, im the only one who washes dishes, so i know their clean...i dont really use my dish washer cus i dont even trust that................try making her write, like if she yells at aunt, make her sit at the table and write something like, "i will not yell at aunt," start off with a warning to let her know that you will make her write if she acts up again, then if she does, stick to your guns and sit her down with a pen and paper...if she starts cryin you may get soft and tell her to stop, but before you do, explain why she should not yell and how it affects you all and about respect and bla bla, then allow her to stop if you want...but if she yells again then you will prolly not feel bad, start off with one page front and back and go up a page each time.................make her write nice and neat and one sentence per line.............i had to do this when i was young, not only in school, but also at a friends house lol..........and when i get pissed at my daughter who will be 11 in jan, i make her write...first she will think shes all hard and be like, "fine how many pages?" but after a half page she will break down and we will talk about whatever it is that shes havin attitude trouble about.......i will not hit my girl but i Will make her write till her hand falls off if need be..........try it...it works for me.....good luck

 

[kayvee]

thats a great thing you are doing slow. and tackling add/adhd is a hard thing. my ex had that and i worked so hard with him for a couple of years trying to teach him how to act and learning how he deals with things. unfortunately, by the time i was able to learn it all, we were no longer together, and he got the next female knocked up.

please just have patience with this girl. and dont let your lady act like that with her, that is not good.

there are a lot of resources on the web for adhd, and look into "coaching".

have you done therapy yet? you should look into a specialist.

~k.

 

[BIGCHILL]

congratulations slowpoke.