Why do we hide the side of us that people will naturally like

[MOESES SOULRIGHT THE 2nd]

Now...
Let me explain. There is a side to all of us
#1 that is non-defensive,
#2 fun
#3 curious,
#4 opionative but with openess to new ideas and non-aggresive towards things we do not agree with
#5 talkative
#6 able to express guilt or remorse
#7 able to admit we are wrong

there's more, but you get the jist right?

Well, it seems that we all hide this natural part of us to those who aren't our closest companions(1-3 best friends and some family)

I think if we all let down our guard, we'd all like strangers a lot more...

example...there is a person on the siccness i know, who is cool as fuck in one on one conversations( but when i see him around others, he's always on tough(not beat you up tough, just closed off) mode and acts kind of aloof...

Now i do this too, and i really don't understand why(i think)

so let's hear some opinions on why we all do this

and maybe, it will help us all to see it just makes things harder for us

 

[Tooper]

i'm like that too i feel like that's the real me,but with strangers i'm gaurded.

i see whut your sayin.

people that know me would tell you i'm a cool cat.i don't act like i'm a bad ass at all unless sumone trys to punk me.cause then sumone would have started with me for just being me.

 

[Locahontas]

I think it's because people don't want to seem 'soft' cuzz someone might take advantage of them. And remember the phrase, 'Don't take kindness for weakness?' People who are all of those things listed above are looked at as weaker than those who are more standoffish. And when people are perceived as 'weak', others want to bully them and stuff.

 

[Tooper]

marlon turn on your messanger

 

[Operation925]

Yeah it's like Survival of the Fittest. Everyone wants to seem like they are the hardest person out there. And unfortunately in some situations that is needed. It's almost like everyone still stuck in high school (maybe a lot of people on this bored still are) but for those that aren't they still want to be accept and they want to be "cool." I guess that just takes some living up to and hiding your true personality at times. I think in the society we live in that frontin is so much a part of our everyday life, that it's almost more natural than being true to who you are.

 

[Al-Kaholik]

Damn I never even thought of that, I usually dont have much to say to people i've never met before..maybe it's because subconciously we aint comfortable around em yet, just like people always say not to do hallucinogenics around people you dont know because you might flip out, and hallucinogenics tend to bring out the subconcious of a lotta people.


Oh yeah I probably know one or two people that never hide that side to em, and now that I think about it everybody seems to like em.

 

[miggidy]

Why do we hide the side of us that people will naturally like?

People love being dicks!