somebody help me with this broad im fuckin wit....

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Uaintknowin

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ok, got this new female right, thangs is goi8ng cool for us and all, she got two kids but i aint really trippin off that, what i am trippin off is this, # 1...i aint tryin to get into beef wit her baby daddy...cause i aint the type of cat to fight, im gonna do some harm to the man if he start some shit....she hate the nigga and they aint together but he be droppin in on her to check on his kids and shit, i can see him comin over when im there and we start funkin cause he trippin cause im around his kids.......but thats just the beginning....
before she met me she was with some other cat that she loved like a mutha fucka and he just left her ass, now yesterday the cat calls her back and says he loves her and wants to get back with her and all this other shit...and i can see baby is confused, she says she wants to be with me, but i can see in her heart she really wants him......what would ya'll do....?????
 
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Roxy

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My 4 cents:

First off, w/ the old flame coming around, there is little U can do. She probably needs a little space to figure stuff out. Give her some, but before U do just explain that U care about her and her best interest. Assure her of your feelings for her and explain that the space is only so she can make the right choice for her. Not b/c U want to distance yourself from her.

As for the BD, if U plan to be serious w/ this woman, talk w/ dude or have her lay down the law w/ him. They have kids together but he should also respect her and her personal life. But it is up to her to handle this, not U. If that doesn't work then have a mano a mano talk w/ dude. Keep it respectful b/c there are kids involved and he is their dad.

I hope it works out for U, I'm sure it will. :classic:
 
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Uaintknowin

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damn roxy, i dotn know what to do...if i was in her bd's position i wouldnt want some other cat around my kids, i would try to talk to him but i know it just wouldnt work....we'd end up fightin because that the type of person he is...and i dont take no shit...ima give it a shot, the dude dont really care about his kids from what i hear, he dont hardly give no money and never comes to see them.

about the old flame, your right there aint nothin i can do.....she doesnt really want any space though....she keeps tellin me to come back and she dont want me to leave....but when i ask her question like " are you my lady" or "do i need to be concerned about you gettin back with him" she wont give me a straight answer and just tried to change the subject.....so its confusin for me too.....
 
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Roxy

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Dude, U don't want to be the rebound. Sometimes females can take advantage of a nice man, especially when confused. Just follow your gut and keep your head up. :classic:
 
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I agree will Roxy 150% percent. You just need to lay down the law and tell her that she has to make a decision on you or the other fool. Cause if not she gonna be stringing you around like a puppet and nobody wants to be someones puppet...........
 
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Damn. I fucking hate situations like this. Roxy- I know we started funking over some stupid shit a while ago but I gotta agree witcha on this. Give her space dogg. Let her think it through and if she's smart she won't go back to some dude that left her ass before. Don't let this get the best of you. Let her know how YOU feel and then just post up and see what happens. Think of it this way.....If she takes dude back then she wasn't good enough for you anyway. The BD will always be apart of your relationship, no matter what, so you have to find some way to keep things calm between ya'll cause he ain't going no where. Does he just drop by whenever or is there a schedule? If you know when he's coming over just try not to be around at that time. Good Luck
 
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Uaintknowin

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hey ya'll, i needed this...thanks, i appreciate ya'll givin a brotha some advice on how to deal wit this....ima keep ya'll posted and let ya'll know what happens.....I owe you both a drink.....you all got some good ass points.....i hate going through this shit too.
 
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Uaintknowin

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hey ya'll, i needed this...thanks, i appreciate ya'll givin a brotha some advice on how to deal wit this....ima keep ya'll posted and let ya'll know what happens.....I owe you both a drink.....you all got some good ass points.....i hate going through this shit too.
 
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BIG REESE LOC1

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I'd leave her ass alone

You aint got no time for her to be confused, either yall gonna make what yall have work or not. Why continue to go on with shit when she is havin second thoughts about the cat that dissed her ass, but is all of a sudden callin back cause he want some more pussy. Thats how shit work out tho, a cat will leave a broad, but once that cat find out that she kickin it with someone new and is somewhat happy, here come this fool back with the old "I Love You" trip. Get a feel for the situation and make a decision.


As far as Baby Daddy, thats just hatin, as long as you aint whoopin on his kids, and ordering them around, he shouldnt have no problem. He havin a problem cause he also fits in that category that the first cat fits in, the all-of-a-sudden-wanna-get-back-wit-the-broad-cause-she-with-the-next-cat-and-happy syndrome:classic:
 
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PLOT

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First of all, you SHOULD be trippen off the two kids, secondly write her off quick. If you really think you'd work out then dont get close to her and let time reveal. Dont make any decisions with your heart, use your head, or your just gonna end up on Jerry Springer with all those other idiots.
 
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If you see yourself with her for a long time, try to keep the relationship working with the obstacles put in your path, but make sure you let her know to assure that she won't leave you one day. If you see yourself with her, but not for long, let her know. She's obviously been heart broken two times - the baby daddy and her ex - no more damage is necessary, so it might take time. If you want to distant yourself from her without causing more emotional damage, slowly start becoming more like her "friend" and support her and give her advice.
Have you ever heared the term re-bound? Almost everyone who's been heart-broken does this. She might think being with you is the right decision (to forget about her ex), but sooner or later, she'll realize what she's doing and want back with him or want to be single again... or really be with you if she falls in "love" with you.
It also sounds like her childrens' father still wants something with her because he still cares about who she's seeing, so he might give you problems. If he's not hard-headed, a conversation with him would help. I would suggest that she speaks to him to get things straight. You have no reason to speak to the guy because who she sees is none of his concern. He should be out of the picture when it comes to you and her. His children is another story.
 
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