Okay you assholes, let's talk about human needs and personal relationships

[SeriouslyThug]

What is it with people who think I am being selfish by asking them to leave their bullshit relationship rules to themselves, rather than perceive themselves as being selfish for feeling entitled to how I live my life as they impose their traditional rules on me and the others in their life?

People keep calling this "love" and all I see is pure selfishness on their part.
They dont give a fuck about you. They love their own conditions that you meet. As soon as you stop meeting those conditions, they don't love you anymore. It had nothing to do with you, ever.

I've encountered these people my whole life and it is always a matter of time before they expect me to make sacrifices and make my ambitions in life about them. By saying 'sorry, no can do, heres the door', they think I am being selfish.


For some reason they cannot differentiate between me being selfish with my life and time and them being selfish with my life and my time. To them its the same thing.. and this is how they justify their conditions.


How many of you assholes do this to the people in your life? If you do so, why are you a mental midget and live life like your opinion is objective truth that should be imposed on others? you little fucking dictator you... And yall call it caring, love, desire, etc.

not buying it

 

[InfamousICON]

I stopped having girlfriends years ago due to this. Every single fucking one of them in my life wanted to change me to fit whatever mold they wanted. Every time I eventually told them to kick rocks, but I was the "asshole". Like me for me, or bounce, it's as easy as that.

Woman would rather have a project instead of just finding somebody they like from the get go. I had one tell me I should "evolve and better myself" when I brought up just liking me for me. Who the fuck are you. Your standards don't equal "better".

Now I'm all about short term, fuck a long term relationship. Maybe one day I'll get lucky and find one that don't see me as a "project", but if I don't, oh well. If I end up an alone old man, fuck it.

 

[SeriouslyThug]

I stopped having girlfriends years ago due to this. Every single fucking one of them in my life wanted to change me to fit whatever mold they wanted. Every time I eventually told them to kick rocks, but I was the "asshole". Like me for me, or bounce, it's as easy as that.

Woman would rather have a project instead of just finding somebody they like from the get go. I had one tell me I should "evolve and better myself" when I brought up just liking me for me. Who the fuck are you. Your standards don't equal "better".

Now I'm all about short term, fuck a long term relationship. Maybe one day I'll get lucky and find one that don't see me as a "project", but if I don't, oh well. If I end up an alone old man, fuck it.

I wish I could say that these criteria are being imposed on me by my girlfriend or something. No, these chicks are women who willingly joined me knowing that I am non monogamous and that I will never settle down.

I can’t even do short term. I’m just trying to do a “hey if you think I’m cool let’s chill. If you don’t trust me then kick rocks”

Why would I willingly enter a relationship where my whole life is to become about someone else?


Also, I agree with you concerning their standards. And the really fucked up thing about their standards is it the standards were never really theirs! They were conditioned into them by their asshole culture that they claim they are against.

 

[InfamousICON]

Why would I willingly enter a relationship where my whole life is to become about someone else?

The amount of times I've told people that "humans naturally get tired of each other eventually" in regards to people I knew getting married young as hell, is too damn high. People aren't meant to be together for years and years and years. That was an old construct for economical purposes. Shit is unnecessary now. People just stay together and be miserable for the sake of being scared to be alone.


Honestly though, I wouldn't mind trying monogamy once in my life, mostly out of being tired lol. I'm 35 and have never had a monogamous relationship that has lasted longer than 6 months and only once has it gone that long. Most have been a month or two tops lol

I know it wouldn't last though, guess I know I always without fail get tired of people quick. Whatever annoys me about somebody gets amplified fast as hell. Plus I'm a cynical asshole, so I know I gotta be annoying. I'm actually surprised I've almost always been the one telling women to kick rocks and not vice versa, I gotta be fucking brutal to be around eventually with my cynical nature lol but that must be where the "project" shit comes in.

 

[SeriouslyThug]

The amount of times I've told people that "humans naturally get tired of each other eventually" in regards to people I knew getting married young as hell, is too damn high. People aren't meant to be together for years and years and years. That was an old construct for economical purposes. Shit is unnecessary now. People just stay together and be miserable for the sake of being scared to be alone.

PREACH

Honestly though, I wouldn't mind trying monogamy once in my life, mostly out of being tired lol. I'm 35 and have never had a monogamous relationship that has lasted longer than 6 months and only once has it gone that long. Most have been a month or two tops lol

I know it wouldn't last though, guess I know I always without fail get tired of people quick. Whatever annoys me about somebody gets amplified fast as hell. Plus I'm a cynical asshole, so I know I gotta be annoying. I'm actually surprised I've almost always been the one telling women to kick rocks and not vice versa, I gotta be fucking brutal to be around eventually with my cynical nature lol but that must be where the "project" shit comes in.

I feel you. I've been monogamous most of my life--even married, and you are right. For some reason these women never change as fast as I do and next thing you know i find myself in a relationship where they are codependent on me and im living the life/excitement of two people.


Since then I decided to look for others like me who are non monogamous. I am just so exhausted now with how many of them started off like that before i eventually get an ultimatum because they catch feelings or something.
it is a game they play on themselves.

Other than that, I get messages from chicks who just want to hookup but I dont trust them hoes or the dudes they sleep with. Not trying to catch no STD.

Ive been dealing with this situation all day long and no energy for the gym today and now im at home ready to nap.
thank you for the response and I am glad I am not the only one out there feeling used.

 

[StillHustlin]

No disrespect but I'm surprised you are questioning these irrational creatures, specifically the Americanized ones. They are merely a product of their environment, remember. This is by design, as I have brought up numerous times the Destruction, Materialism, and Imposition agenda set forth by the Masters centuries ago.

My question to any man that I consider a friend, is why are you trying to have a girlfriend or wife?

Like have you not learned yet, that it is a Man-made construct to possess another human. There is no longer a benefit to having either. At one time you had to be married to legally have sexual relations with a woman in the US. Also at one time, the role of a wife was to take care of the home and family while the man earned the living. Those are archaic concepts that have been destroyed. You no longer need a girlfriend or wife to have sexual relations with a woman. There is no benefit to a marriage and there definitely is no benefit to a monogamous relationship. I look at people sideways who seek this as you have been conditioned to think you need it.


There are like 7billion people and half are women. Enjoy.

 

[SeriouslyThug]

No disrespect but I'm surprised you are questioning these irrational creatures, specifically the Americanized ones. They are merely a product of their environment, remember. This is by design, as I have brought up numerous times the Destruction, Materialism, and Imposition agenda set forth by the Masters centuries ago.

My question to any man that I consider a friend, is why are you trying to have a girlfriend or wife?

Like have you not learned yet, that it is a Man-made construct to possess another human. There is no longer a benefit to having either. At one time you had to be married to legally have sexual relations with a woman in the US. Also at one time, the role of a wife was to take care of the home and family while the man earned the living. Those are archaic concepts that have been destroyed. You no longer need a girlfriend or wife to have sexual relations with a woman. There is no benefit to a marriage and there definitely is no benefit to a monogamous relationship. I look at people sideways who seek this as you have been conditioned to think you need it.


There are like 7billion people and half are women. Enjoy.

Thank you for your response. I am not trying to have a girlfriend or a wife.

I have a whole lot to think about; what is even feasible, etc..

 

[drunkaholic707]

get a hooker

 

[InfamousICON]

get a hooker

Spit game and get laid for free. Women are empowered now too, might even get them to buy you drinks.

 

[WT SAVAGE]

been married for 13 years.

 

[S.L.A.B]

 

[Hood Rat Matt]

been married for 13 years.

Comin up on 6 (feels like 60), but I've we've been friends for 18 years. I've learned to choose my battles wisely

 

[SeriouslyThug]

For me personally, and I've been married before and have always been about that long term investment throughout my teens and 20s, currently I have 2 regulars who I see on a weekly basis and so far I feel like I am getting 220% the benefits of a relationship without the burdening role of babysitting my wife's neuroses. People's needs as a compensation for childhood lacking(missing dad, not enough hugs received, etc) is really not what I want my life's goal to be about.
I don't believe in making the greatest aspirations of my life to be about another ape who is just as ignorant about who we are or why we are here as myself.

I am not going to be a whore of culture and tradition. I don't care to live the predetermined life that keeps the wheels of this ant colony spinning.

This thread was written because 9/10 times the conclusion to any effort made towards connecting with chicks, or even friends who are male-- they always like you as long as you are a benefit to them.
To me, this is deceptive and IMHO straight up violent.

If yall read the thread where the dude talks about the Fourth Tunnel vs the cheese, I feel like people have grown to BELIEVE in the idea of a traditional monogamous relationship as being the only way that can be meaningful, but I have a more meaningful connection with these regulars than I ever did with my long term significant other.
These chicks are really getting more out of me than they had ever gotten from their husbands and boyfriends. THIS is the cheese. The label is the fourth tunnel.

nonetheless, it is disheartening when one of them begins to succumb to the cultural conditioning, but there are billions of people out there so statistically speaking I am always going to be better off moving on.

 

[InfamousICON]

I've learned to choose my battles wisely

This statement is what has always turned me off from long term relationships.

I've never been with a woman that understands that people are allowed to disagree, we as people don't have to share the same exact viewpoint on 100% of every single small thing. They don't get that everything doesn't have to be a battle until we're in 100% sync.

A funny recent example, that wasn't really an argument, just an experience I found humorous, was this chick I was hanging out with a few months ago. We were gonna go grab takeout, but couldn't agree on where to get food. I mentioned that we can just go to two different spots, so we both get what we wanted. The idea of us not getting food from the same place and going to two different places almost broke a gasket in her brain lol it took her a minute to comprehend that even being an option. It felt like she had to sit back for a minute and then realize "oh yeah, we don't have to be the same all the time".

The "battles" you mention, really do feel like a mental warzone sometimes. Truly feels like women will legit create a battle solely for the purpose of argument/drama/or just testing you. I honestly feel like half the time they want to battle with a man, they don't even care about what they're battling for, they just want to fuck with us.

 

[SeriouslyThug]

A funny recent example, that wasn't really an argument, just an experience I found humorous, was this chick I was hanging out with a few months ago. We were gonna go grab takeout, but couldn't agree on where to get food. I mentioned that we can just go to two different spots, so we both get what we wanted. The idea of us not getting food from the same place and going to two different places almost broke a gasket in her brain lol it took her a minute to comprehend that even being an option. It felt like she had to sit back for a minute and then realize "oh yeah, we don't have to be the same all the time".

Sounds like my experience with my wife. She'd ask what we I am doing 2 saturday's from now n shit. It was weird for her that I'd want to not spend my time off with her.

The "battles" you mention, really do feel like a mental warzone sometimes. Truly feels like women will legit create a battle solely for the purpose of argument/drama/or just testing you. I honestly feel like half the time they want to battle with a man, they don't even care about what they're battling for, they just want to fuck with us.

They create this battle because they are so fucking insecure that they make YOUR life about making them feel attractive and wanted, etc.
I don't know if this is a chick thing as most people are like that in general.

 

[Hood Rat Matt]

That's hella funny about the chick blowing a gasket at the idea of getting food from 2 different places.

I feel like my wife and I have become more of a team as time has passed because we both have the same goals as far as what we want for our kids. Neither of us want to raise the fucked up, insecure people we became. We see what our parents did wrong

 

[North916Savage]

SeriouslyThug, you are a homo man. Only faggots write paragraphs of dumb shit about their personal lives, I couldn't even finish reading your posts before laughing. You should Man up and quit letting your feelings get to you. Just admit it to the world that you are gay as ricky martin.

 

[SeriouslyThug]

SeriouslyThug, you are a homo man. Only faggots write paragraphs of dumb shit about their personal lives, I couldn't even finish reading your posts before laughing. You should Man up and quit letting your feelings get to you. Just admit it to the world that you are gay as ricky martin.

You clearly have a thing for the cock, dude. You think speaking coherently and making sense makes me gay. Everything to you makes everyone gay. Fuck off, child. Clearly you are still in the closet.

Nobody is talking about cock except for you.

ps. EVERYONE is talking about their personal lives in this thread. If you don't like it go suck a cock in the park like your signature was requesting.

 

[StillHustlin]

been married for 13 years.

Noticed the word happily missing.

Congrats

RIP success

 

[StillHustlin]

Wait for it......