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Japanese Women Hunt for Husbands as Refuge From Deepening Slump
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By Toru Fujioka

March 18 (Bloomberg) -- When Yumiko Iwate’s pay was cut last year, she and her female colleagues all agreed there was only one thing to do: find a husband.

“I want to get married soon, hopefully by the end of this year,” said Iwate, a 36-year-old employee at a mail-order retailer in Tokyo. “The recession made me realize I’m not going to make as much money as I expected, and I’d be more stable financially if I had double income to fall back on.”

Women the Japanese call “marriage-hunters” are looking to tie the knot as companies from Toyota Motor Corp. to Sony Corp. fire thousands of workers and the nation heads for its biggest annual economic contraction since 1945. Marriages surged to a five-year high of 731,000 in 2008 as wages stagnated and the unemployment rate rose for the first time in six years.

“Financial concerns are a major reason for the increase in marriage-hunting,” said Toshihiro Nagahama, chief economist at Dai-Ichi Life Research Institute in Tokyo. “Women are motivated more than ever to find a financially sound partner.”

The trend marks a reversal for women who put careers over families after Japan implemented equal labor rights 23 years ago. The number of marriages in the following decade slid 4.5 percent to an annual average of 746,000 compared with the decade before. Despite equal rights, women still make 43 percent less than men, giving them more reason to seek a partner during recessions.

‘As Good as Men’

“I know women before my generation worked so hard and pursued their careers so they could prove they’re just as good as men,” said Reiko Kubo, 25, who bought a good-luck charm at Tokyo Daijingu shrine. “They didn’t have to depend on men and that’s cool, but it’s not the path I want to follow.”

Tokyo Daijingu has come to be known as the marriage-hunters’ shrine, and the number of visitors has risen about 20 percent in the past year, said priest Yoshiyuki Karamatsu. For 5,000 yen, he will conduct a ritual to ward off bad spirits; the purification ceremony includes drinking sacred sake.

Recessions have encouraged the Japanese to wed before. Marriages rose when an asset-price bubble burst in the late 1980s and again after the technology crash in 2001. Analysts say the trend is gaining traction because the current slump is expected to spur record-high unemployment.

Economists at Dai-Ichi Life Research and JPMorgan Chase & Co. expect the jobless rate this year to surpass the postwar peak of 5.5 percent in 2003. Unemployment in January was 4.1 percent. Wages have slumped for three months, and the economy contracted an annualized 12.1 percent last quarter, the biggest drop since 1974.

Civil Weddings

Marriages are also increasing in other countries as recessions spread around the world. The number of civil weddings in London’s Westminster Register Office, the city’s most popular, rose 8.5 percent to 1,684 between April 2008 and February 2009 compared with a year earlier, according to Alison Cathcart, the superintendent registrar. “We certainly feel a lot busier,” she said.

Japan’s husband hunters are pursuing relationships the way they might search for jobs: They interview at agencies -- dating agencies, in this case. They attend networking parties or just let friends know they are ready for commitment.

Iwate started her quest in December by writing New Year’s cards to 170 acquaintances from junior high school classmates to fellow dancers at salsa lessons, asking for help finding an eligible bachelor. Her five co-workers are in on the hunt, introducing each other to potential partners and putting sticky notes on the most useful pages of the “Complete Guide to Marriage Hunting” from “an an” magazine, a weekly publication for women in their 20s and 30s.

‘Looks Shouldn’t Matter’

The issue included articles telling readers that, while it’s acceptable to choose a husband by occupation, “looks shouldn’t matter because they’re not essential to leading a married life. You need to consider men you normally wouldn’t date.”

It listed character traits by job type: “Traders tend to be adventurous and forward-looking; pharmacists conservative and stable; sushi chefs patient and creative.”

It also cautioned against playing hard to get: Being coy “is strictly forbidden; men want to seriously date women who act natural.”

Business is booming at Green, a marriage-hunting bar in Tokyo’s nightlife district of Roppongi. Men pay 11,340 yen ($115) per visit to have waiters set them up with women, who get in free. The bar is booked solid on weekends, and membership is up 26 percent this year, according to owner Yuta Honda.

Dating Agencies

Interest in O-Net, Japan’s largest dating agency, is also rising. The number of people requesting applications jumped 10 percent in the past year, according to spokesman Toshiaki Kato. Shares of Watabe Wedding Corp., a wedding-planning agency, are up 55 percent since September, while the broader Topix index has slumped 30 percent.

Marriage hunting has even attracted the attention of policy makers, who have been trying for years to increase Japan’s birthrate. Women give birth to only 1.34 children on average in their lifetimes, government data for 2007 show, well below the 2.07 required for a stable population.

A government panel charged with increasing the population met last month and invited academics to discuss the trend. Until now, efforts were focused on people with children, said Yuko Obuchi, 35, the minister in charge of the project, who is expecting her second child in September. “Marriage hunting underscores the importance of addressing unmarried people as well.”

Meanwhile, Natsuko Ono, 25, is sparing no expense to find a man. She said she’s spent 370,000 yen so far, mostly for a professional portrait and registration at a matchmaking agency.

“It sounds like a lot of money, but if you consider that it’s a way to find a husband, it’s a reasonable investment,” she said while scoping men at Green.

To contact the reporter for this story: Toru Fujioka in Tokyo at [email protected]
 
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Business is booming at Green, a marriage-hunting bar in Tokyo’s nightlife district of Roppongi. Men pay 11,340 yen ($115) per visit to have waiters set them up with women, who get in free. The bar is booked solid on weekends, and membership is up 26 percent this year, according to owner Yuta Honda.
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About Customer

GREEN like members (men), we ask you when you think of your first customers. 品Please listen to your voice like品原.


"Friday's mid-October 8, GREEN ROPPONGI singles bar I go to play with her.
GREEN originally that has not heard from a friend, and a time like we had thought, was a day to get together with friends suddenly Nishiazabu to work in a restaurant about a year effort ROPPONGI to close now that let's go.


TTA because of a friend after a day's work, GREEN arrive what she was about 23:00.
Take the elevator, and get to the floor, the men's staff and a refreshing feeling of a tall, dressed in black suits, "May I help you? What is our first time here? It guides" and corresponds to TEKIPAKI us.


When you go to the back of the store is information, and look around, I did not feel like cooking in a significant audience.
A seat at the counter for women 12-3, in the store I was about 25.
For men is less than 10, was a little surprised to feel less than men at all.


"We guide our system" is passed through a seat on the sofa and staff, and the cabaret club and that is different, they are easy to explain charges.
And that the full membership, to fill a member's card and then the name and occupation, to the staff SHIMASHITA.


"Type of woman do you prefer?" I asked, my friend is "pretty high in the back!" I said cheerfully, and (laughs)


Beer had come to ask, the staff are women and two were immediately brought.
Is passed through a seat, "Please enjoy it," says Staff.
From 2 to 2 in a toast, "Why did you come often?" Began to talk with women like you.


One woman was tall SURATTO, the other one is a tidy-looking woman, and two who were 21 years old and younger. I was coming in with a group of friends today after a long time since I came to GREEN was in Roppongi and I stopped.

Conversation is an ordinary hobby or a good story, very fun for some reason, the surge, was気GATSUITARA after 3 hours. I was always talking with four people.


Oolong has a high alcohol level six games. I always drink more, it was a pleasure having a conversation, it was less. Friends are drinking much was drunk (laughs)
It was not two women, about the only one drinking cup.


Recommendation or how to get things like alcohol, unlike the cabaret club, do not worry about selling dealer, a normal girl, just be having a conversation, it is too early in the time.


That it was closing at 2 pm, outside the shops, the club remains close to its highest in four people went to play.


Price is a friend and was a little less than two million yen. 安いです・・・。 It is cheap.
If in a cabaret club in Roppongi 3 hours, 8 million yen, so it takes a mighty cheap given it to friends when he was with the accounting.


We will play soon! それでは。 ?"
Voice of women members

The voice you GREEN from female members, bon appétit we introduce some.


"GREEN comes in for a meeting with a wonderful man.
I live around marriage (marriage work) I like how you have to go to the party, I came to the bar members by taking these easy, I thought it should知RI合ERE against .

It may also encourage a sense that marriage here.


I'm not even a lie, I'm the type of muscle you have attended, when met with such a nice man, the following week, I'll have to see in the shops.
It's fun to be annoyed by the following week. 」 "

Late 20's female members (actors)



"GREEN encounter would lead to marriage in!
I was wondering if I have a good fashion by a man (dressed) in consultation with the wrong friends, and walk up TOKASHI or wearing dresses.


The man who has just entered the shop, and I want to talk a little cool, if anyone thought it, I also got to talk to him.


GREEN restrooms for women, do not you major traffic jams.
I got a facelift to us all. I like BATCHIRI battle.
Do I go for a facelift, too often you (laughs)


I made the last train up close to many fine,
If you met a nice man and, I thought it話SHITAKATTA a little more, I'll always being hit by後RO髪. 。 . 。 .
GREEN how well I'm happy marriage life. 」 "

30-year-old female member (OL)



"GREEN When you go to the clothing or careful you are going to do every possible KABURANAI.
And people who came before, a chance meeting at the shop again, I hate KABUTTARA is the same dress.


The man came into the shop, I'm checking people casually (laughs)
Wow so many nice men, I came to the store and always fun. 」 "

Female members age 25 (model)



"Actually I do not normally encounter in our store is a convenient I.
The fashionable bars, and enjoy a buffet and drinks.
In addition, I may also introduce a great man
It is full of a good thing.


Be having a conversation, go to the next store? 』 ,
When I asked out, I may go for a drink next to the store with it. 」 "

20 women members teens (Model Campaign)
 

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COMFORT FOOD - PART 1

The Warm Embrace of the Japanese Chubby Maid Café

INTERVIEWS BY TOMOKAZU KOSUGA
TRANSLATED BY LENA OISHI
PHOTOS BY TAKAAKI TANAKA

Dieting is, sadly, an important ritual for girls all over the world. But as with everything else they do, the girls in Japan take it just that little bit too far, right up to the point where it’s basically obsessive-compulsive disorder. “Eat and lose weight!” diet fads are big here now. There are all-banana diets and all-natto [fermented soybeans that smell like your feet took a shit on a pile of trash] diets. When these programs are shown on TV, you can bet that the product in question will miraculously disappear off the shelves of your local supermarket the next day. Eating and losing weight at the same time sounds, um, stupid to people like you and me, but for Japanese ladies who have tried every dieting fad in the book for decades, it’s just another way to avoid getting on a fucking treadmill and laying off the mochi, which is the only way to really lose weight.

But it’s also here in Japan that a bunch of not-so-thin girls run Pomeranian: The Chubby Maid Café, every month in the
otaku mecca of Akihabara. The waitresses all dress up in maid costumes, and they all have a nice, cozy amount of heft on them. They call their customers “master” and they attend to their every culinary whim and need. In Japan, the land that gave us rail-thin, orange-tanned, shopaholic gyaru, these chubby charmers are like a warm, soothing breeze that smells faintly of milk chocolate.
I felt a strange sense of calm at Pomeranian. Maybe it’s because the girls are unashamedly letting it all hang out, or perhaps it’s because being surrounded by chubby girls makes me forget how fat I am myself.

Either way, proudly showing off their flab in a nation famous for its low obesity rate and pressure to conform makes these girls sort of like the foodie equivalent of a crust-punk throwing a lit Molotov cocktail into a bank. Plus they’re cute. Did we say that already? They’re really cute.



COMFORT FOOD - PART 2

The Warm Embrace of the Japanese Chubby Maid Café

INTERVIEWS BY TOMOKAZU KOSUGA
TRANSLATED BY LENA OISHI
PHOTOS BY TAKAAKI TANAKA


ICHIGO
Vice: When did you come up with the concept of the “chubby café”?

Ichigo:
I used to work at a regular maid café until I realized that all of the other girls were much thinner than me. I guess I felt a sense of inferiority, but then I considered how I could turn that around and actually make it work for me. That’s how I came up with this café.

Maid cafés are very Japanese things. To be treated so gently by a waitress would shock a lot of people from other countries.

I’m personally a big fan of maid cafés and have been going to them for around five years. The maids are very polite and offer great service. While waitresses at regular cafés might slam a glass of water on the table, maids are very careful with the way they serve you and offer refills. I love when you can see just how much consideration they have for a customer.

Have you had any particularly unique customers?

Yes, one man wanted to take a Polaroid of every single maid in our café. We have this system where you can take a Polaroid with a maid for 500 yen, and this man wanted to pose with every single girl. He was at the café the whole day, waiting for the shift change so that he could get every one of us. I guess he’s a collector of maid photos [laughs].

Have you had any experiences where your chubbiness acted in your favor?

I find that people find me easily approachable. When it’s raining and I don’t have an umbrella, old ladies let me go under theirs. Also, I get asked for directions a lot. I suppose they think I’m friendly, but whether that’s an advantage, I don’t know! In any case, people tend to open up to me more.

I’m chubby too. Do you think I should be more confident about myself?

Sure. I think it’s definitely better for men to be a little on the chubby side rather than being rake thin, because you exude a sense of kindness that’s all-encompassing. As for girls, I also wish they wouldn’t take their chubbiness as a negative thing. There are tons of girls out there who are chubby and attractive, so they should regard them as role models. Also, even if you notice that someone’s chubby, you shouldn’t comment on their weight so much [laughs]. It’s a unique trait of theirs, and that’s an important thing to have.

 

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COMFORT FOOD - PART 3

The Warm Embrace of the Japanese Chubby Maid Café

INTERVIEWS BY TOMOKAZU KOSUGA
TRANSLATED BY LENA OISHI
PHOTOS BY TAKAAKI TANAKA​


TSUKASA
Vice: You’re the head maid here. When did you start working at this café?

Tsukasa: Almost exactly one year ago. The first Pomeranian event was held on October 6 last year, and I joined at the third event in December. As the head maid I pass information on to the other maids, give them directions, and work as an organizer.​

What’s your main selling point?

Well, even around here I’m on the larger side, so in that way I’m in keeping with the whole idea of the café itself. Being this size kind of suits me, so I guess customers who like chubby girls are attracted to me. But I’m not saying I love myself because of it.​

Has working at Pomeranian changed you?

I used to be kind of shy, but through working here I’ve become someone who can enjoy being with people more. Getting to know and spending time with lots of different people has been really positive for me. I’m happy I do this.​

What’s your favorite food?

Ice cream, especially soft ice cream. I had some yesterday, actually, and once a day would have to be my ideal minimum [laughs]. I like it so much I can eat it at pretty much any time of the day. My favorite flavor has to be rich milk or a thick, creamy type. Whatever, as long as it’s got milk in it. I don’t drink milk usually but I do tend to prefer ice creams with a full-bodied, milky flavor.​

What do you talk to the customers about?

We usually comment on the customer’s clothing or what they’ve brought with them. Or, for example, today we’re running a school theme, so when someone comes in we ask if they’d like to be called Senpai [a Japanese term referring to seniors at school] or Teacher, then we continue conversing with them according to the theme. So with Senpai we speak as if we’re younger girls looking up to them, and with Teacher we act as if we’re one of their students. We think of different themes all the time, so one day you could see us dressed up as maids, and other days as something completely different. It all depends.​

COMFORT FOOD - PART 4

The Warm Embrace of the Japanese Chubby Maid Café

INTERVIEWS BY TOMOKAZU KOSUGA
TRANSLATED BY LENA OISHI
PHOTOS BY TAKAAKI TANAKA​


KOZUE
Vice: What’s your role in the café?

Kozue: I’m the maid chief. I plan projects and work on adjusting the fine details. For example, right now a lot of schools are hosting school festivals, so we’ve decided to go with the theme of Pomeranian School Festival. We’re all wearing things you would wear at school, such as sports uniforms. In April, we have events where we dress up in regular school uniforms to commemorate the enrollment ceremonies that Japanese schools host for new students. During Christmas, we all wear Santa Claus outfits. We also have Pigtail Day, where all of the maids wear pigtails with the regular maid costume. This was a big hit with our customers; they found it refreshing.​

What’s your favorite food?

Carbohydrates like curry and ramen noodles. Out of all of the maids in this chubby maid café, I have the biggest appetite. I have a fast metabolism. When we all go out for a meal, I end up eating like crazy, ordering extra-large portions of rice and so on… And then I’ll have parfait for dessert and still feel hungry afterward.​

Do you play any sports?

I’m a cheerleader at my university. Our team came in second place at the national championships. It’s OK for cheerleaders to be a little chubby, because we have to haul people up and do rigorous movements. It’s a sport where you use your entire body, and sometimes we even have to balance other girls on our shoulders, so in that respect I think it’s better if you’re sturdy.​

What’s your signature pose when customers ask to take Polaroid shots with you?

One common pose is where you and the customer put your fingers together to make a heart shape. Also, since the café is called Pomeranian, we often wear dog ears on our heads and put a pair on the master’s head too. Then we both do the “doggy-ear pose.”​

You seem slimmer than the other maids here.

I think the word “chubby” means different things to different people. For example, some people see Kanako Yanagihara [an overweight entertainer in Japan] as being “chubby,” but I personally think that “chubby” is just when you don’t fit into the clothes sold at normal clothing stores, which I don’t. So when I meet customers who have someone bigger like Kanako in mind, they often say that I’m pretty average-looking, slender even. It upsets me when they say that.​


COMFORT FOOD - PART 5

The Warm Embrace of the Japanese Chubby Maid Café

INTERVIEWS BY TOMOKAZU KOSUGA
TRANSLATED BY LENA OISHI
PHOTOS BY TAKAAKI TANAKA


KAYA
Vice: How long has it been since you started working at Pomeranian?

Kaya:
I’ve been with Pomeranian since it opened, so that’s a month and a year now.

Where did you find out about it?

Well, before Pomeranian became Pomeranian, there was group called Utahime Party [Songstress Party] that hosted events. Like Pomeranian, this was also a place where fat people would get together, do cosplay, and just kind of enjoy themselves. I used to be one of the staff at those events and Ichigo used to host them. One day she came to me and offered me a job here.

What’s your maid character?

Well, at Pomeranian most of the girls are bright or cheerful, and there was no one here doing the opposite. So my maid character is a serious, strict kind of person.

What do you do to put across your serious side when in character?

There are things like not dyeing your hair and always watching your behavior. It’s pretty difficult.

What about when you talk?

When talking to customers, I’m careful not to make mistakes with my keigo [a very polite way of speaking in Japanese]. I have to look things up pretty regularly to make sure I’m getting it right.

And how do the customers react?

Some tell me they like it, while others have said they find the character too rigid.

Do you ever wish you could lose weight?

Sure, as a girl there is always the idea of wanting to lose weight, but then I have Pomeranian.

What’s changed for you since becoming a maid at Pomeranian?

I always said to myself, “I must lose weight, I must lose weight,” but since working here I now think, “There’s nothing wrong with being fat.” Being able to accept myself in that way has been a huge change. I’m a more confident person, and other people have said I’ve become more positive.

What’s good about being chubby?

The best thing is when you eat. People often say, “Wow, what you’re eating looks really tasty,” or “You really know how to enjoy yourself.” Hearing things like that makes me feel like people accept and like me, and it also means I get to eat loads. Meals are fun!