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L.D.S.

The Bakersman
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This story is not funny and has no punchline, so if you're looking for that, then I suggest you head to another thread. lol

This is what has happened to me and my friends over the last twenty-four hours.

My best friend Brad called our buddy Dustin last night and was asking for permission to kill himself. He was excessively intoxicated and saying all kinds of suicidal stuff and literally asking Dustin to give him permission to pull the trigger. Dustin refused and I guess talked him down enough for Brad to calm himself and tell D to call him after he got off work. He's beaten himself up for years about his failed college attempts, failed marriage, failed relationships, DUI's, etc.

He's been alone in his heart for a long time, and no amount of filling himself with booze, women, and the novelties of life have helped him out of his hole.

D got off work, called Brad a few times to no answer. Dustin called me to find out Brad's address because he recently moved an hour away from my hometown for work and nobody knew where he lived within our circle of friends, including myself. I'm calling his mom, leaving her voicemails at midnight, wall posts on Facebook, and scouring Yellowpages for a house number to get ahold of her, all the while I'm calling his phone and sending him texts to try and reach him.

Dustin and our other two friends Michael and Chris rush out to Quitman, the town Brad's staying, to try and find him. I tell them to call the cops because since he recently moved to the area and the town's as big as a flea, then the cops would know where to locate him. On their way to find him, which takes an hour to get to from my hometown of Cabot, they get the cops notified of what's taken place so they can take action while D, Michael, and Chris haul ass out there.

They get to Quitman, beat on his door for over an hour, both the cops and our friends, to no answer. They shine the spotlight into his bedroom window, beat and beat on the back door, then finally kick it in. I guess his house is two stories, so they rush upstairs to find him passed out with the gun somewhere near him, they wake him up just shy of grabbing the gun and shooting at them, then the cops take away all his weapons and his license to carry.

He's one of my closest friends. I've spent 16 years devoted to our friendship and playing on the same football teams, throwing parties, and just being his friend. We have learned many life lessons together while breaking rules and hearts, and that really kinda rattled me. I was powerless to stop him, 160 miles from his home, and trying to save him through a voicemail giving a pep talk to a recording hoping and praying he would hear it before he shot himself and that somehow it might stop him from doing the deed.

My boy almost took his life yesterday, and I can't help but wonder what today would be like if he had killed himself.

If you ever find yourself in a place where taking your life is a viable option, please get up and find some support before you act upon those impulses.
 
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dude thats crazy....my next door neighbor just killed himself yesterday....he hung himself and has a wife (good marriage) and 4 kids.....shit's straight fucking sad man especially for all the family members and friends of the person..

best thing your friend can do is talk to someone and make sure he has support from everyone around him
 
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i'm really sorry for the situation you are in.

i just had a friend kill himself not but 3 months ago (in an apartment that i used to live in, and that my mother-in-law rents owns....meaning i had to be the one to go in and clean up all his stuff). He did it in front of my cousin and his little 2 year old daughter..........

i'm still not over it, and doubt i ever will be.


i'm really sorry to hear that your boy is down right now.....i really truly hope he gets help and that everyone comes out of this difficult time.
my thoughts and prayers are with you and everyone in this story.
 
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A few months back, one of my favorite cousin's committed suicide. 16 years old and hung herself. I'm not going to get into specifics, but she's been through hell her whole life. Now my cousin has lost two kids, and another cousin has lost her sister and her best friend, both because of suicide. I don't know what to say besides share my experience and hope that you can prevent this from happening in the future. Best wishes to you and yours. Also, some therapy never hurt anyone. Or at least, I don't think it has...
 

L.D.S.

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The best thing I can do is hope that phone calls and text messages will pull him away from the deep depression he's in. Brad's a good dude, and all the internalizing he's done in the past caught up with him big last night. I talked to his mom and hopefully she'll get him to a counselor soon.

I hope that the families of the ones already spoken about can find peace. I'm not a part of any group of people who have lost a friend to suicide. All of the people I've had in my life are still thriving, albeit broke and hoping for more, but they still get to see their kids and families.

I also hope you guys can find peace in dealing with what you've had to endure through losing someone to suicide.
 

L.D.S.

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I ain't tryin to sound like a Bible thumper, but pray for him.
I am, dude. That's a majority of what I was doing when I wasn't blowing his phone up. I don't talk about my faith on here for good reason, but I do pray to God a lot for my friends and family. I know prayers can reach Brad faster than my car can. I believe and have faith, blind as it may be, that he will allow God to clean him up.
 
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Unfortunately I'm in the club of friends that commited suicide. My coworker I worked with was just lost himself. His job sucked, he was going through family and girl issues and would always talk about suicide. I tried to be ther for him but he ended up taking his own life. I found him in his apartment a few hours after he shot himself.

I will say this LDS. I know this guy is your friend and has been for a while. The best thing you can do is be there for him. But of he takes his own life you can't blame yourself. Therer isn't anyone to blame if it happens except him for taking his own life.

Hopefully he gets the help he needs and lives a long happy life. That's the thing we can all ask god for.
 
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I've gone through similar issues with some very close family and friends. I don't wanna get too into it right now, but suicide and depression are very real problems.. nobody should feel so horrible that they think suicide is their only option.

Just last week, after unexpectedly stumbling upon some money (thanks FINA), I gave a considerable chunk of it to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Hopefully it makes a difference in saving at least one life.

https://www.networkforgood.org/Dona...1p2lEkTik/VZHZ2h4U0StyPGOl0O23dI1aoU+Sv7DzdC+
 
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This is by far the most serious thread i've seen, death doesn't want you, just let go.. let things happen, trying leads nowhere believe me.. I myself have witnessed death too many times not only did it effect us, but also leads to people killing themselves because of the passing of a loved one, but honestly it only causes more pain and suffering for those whom know you, just take it one step at a time and live however fate decides. If you're a fuckup you're a fuckup, theres no stopping you once you've gone to your lowest point, you can only go up from there. Success and popularity really isn't much, it's all about money if anything... but if you don't mind just being yourself... things come more clear.
 
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I've gone through similar issues with some very close family and friends. I don't wanna get too into it right now, but suicide and depression are very real problems.. nobody should feel so horrible that they think suicide is their only option.

Just last week, after unexpectedly stumbling upon some money (thanks FINA), I gave a considerable chunk of it to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Hopefully it makes a difference in saving at least one life.

https://www.networkforgood.org/Dona...1p2lEkTik/VZHZ2h4U0StyPGOl0O23dI1aoU+Sv7DzdC+
I'd like to be able to give more money to charity.
 
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so they rush upstairs to find him passed out with the gun somewhere near him, they wake him up just shy of grabbing the gun and shooting at them
i don't completely understand, after your friend Brad was woken up..... he tried grabbing the gun to shoot the cops? he really made an attempt at that?
 

L.D.S.

The Bakersman
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Well, if you were drunk, laying in your bed at 1 in the morning, you've got a gun near you and there are multiple people in your bedroom when you awake, you'd probably be a little startled, too.

I don't think he actually got to the gun, but he was startled enough that he probably tried to go for it when he finally awoke.

One of the guys was shaking him to get him to wake up, so that I'm sure added to the suspense of the moment.

I talked to him earlier and he was in high spirits like he usually is, and said he had drank a majority of a bottle of Jager and some Crown, then took a dive. I'm sure he did what he sometimes does when he drinks and started thinking way too hard about his past and got upset.
 

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It's good that your friend didn't shoot himself. It sucks that the cops got involved. It might really suck if they hit your friend with a felony for being in possession of a weapon while intoxicated. Overall a good ending by avoiding disaster... and yes, I have known people who killed themselves. :( Keep in touch with your friend and maybe that can keep him from falling into the darkness again
 

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They took his license to carry and all of his guns in the house. IDK if they can charge him with anything as they entered his home and he was asleep. I'll have to ask what the cops said.

I'm going to continue calling him and sending him texts. Honestly, I fell off of contact with him recently and it's just as much my responsibility to keep up with him as it is he to me.
 
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i know what thas like...i had to drive from a bar shit faced drunk down to the american river cuz my drunk ass homeboy (more or less, i didnt kno him that well but my girl did) was gonna jump off the bridge cuz sum fat bitch dumped him

people need pills man...pop a pill everyday b coo n live yo life stop all this unnecessary suicide shit u hurting people by killen yo self smh
 
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Yea im dealing with a similar situation that, without getting into the situation itself, can be quite frustrating when the person in that position actually doesnt want help. I can only hope (and pray) for the best, and be there for the person as much as possible.