well i respect your opinion about it.and its really no thang to avoid this word.but in my opinion its making the racist topic to a topic if you say that white people shoudlnt use it.some of my friends re africans and i hear the word here and then , its not about the history of the word when they or me use it,its just a word, you yourself give it a meaning.
Thank you for respecting my opinion. It shows me that you regard yourself with the utmost respect. I respect you even more for that Indo.
I do want to say this though...Africans and African Americas had the same historical struggles. However Africans and African Americans have different identities. What I mean by this is that if you were to say "What's up my Kafir" to and African they will be more than likely to want to fight you that. Now would you guy's in Europe say that phrase to an African? Hell, no. Not unless you wanted to offend him and start a fight with him and not if you have enough respect for yourselves. Most African Americans don't know that term (Kafir), nor do we identify, understand or have a connection with that word. It wasn't used here in America.
This is why Africans don't give a fuck if you say "Nigga ie. Nigger", because they don't have a close relationship/identity to that word as much as African Americans do. Some brothas will let you say that word (nigga) around them, but old school cat's like me don't play that. Old school white brothers and other non-blacks respect themselves enough not to say such an offensive word like that...regardless of how cool, hood, gangsta or whatever they may thing the word is. When old school non-blacks say that word, they mean it and don't give a fuck about you. That word seems coo' to these youngster, until their non-black friend say's it to them and means it. As I stated earlier...I don't like it when my brothas say that word either and I will/do tell them to when the opportunity presents itself.
As 187HeWrote said...yes, people can say what they want and I have no control of that, however that wasn't the point of me saying this to you and anybody else on this site who isn't black. My point was to acknowledge that you didn't mean anything by it and to ask for you not to say that word out of respect to me, others and most of all yourself. You kindly acknowledge that as I knew you would. I'm glad that you respected my point and understood me for that. Kudos to you for not falling into the ignorance that is on display by others. Like I said non-blacks cannot fathom, nor fully understand the undertones of that word. It's a feeling that can't be written, purchase or sold. It's much deeper than most know.
Thanks again.