So yesterday, my daughter, her mom and I hung out for the first time in about 2 years. Its been a battle between her and I, seeing as she moved to florida with the baby and I was in California clearing up some legal bullshit. Anyway, i just moved out here earlier this month, and we all got to hang out. She spends the whole time blatantly showing off some cubic zirconia engagement ring. Im laughing at her, asking about the new dude and why he hasnt called me like a man and make sure its cool that he is around my child. This dude is a first class lieutenant rescue-a-batch i guess. Anyone else go through this comedy?
Sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too. You still have feelings for her and using your kid a leverage. At least that what it's sounding like from here.
I'm sure you go out living your life and if the day came when you met somebody serious and want to marry, you wouldn't turn to your baby mama for her approval.
Let her be, Breh. As long as dude isn't harming your child it's none of your business what her mama does and who she's fucking. If she fucks up? Better for you to fight for full custody and win, but other than that, step aside and let that lieutenant put a beating on that ass that you once had in your possession, but fumbled of forfeited.
Just be there for your child and provide. Don't use her man as an excuse to wash away your responsibility. With that I mean dishing out doe for your next of kin no matter who's in the picture and how good they may have it, but most important than money is time. Being a real dad isn't about how much money you dish out. It's about the quality time over all.
I been through this plenty of times and there is a reason why the baby mama and I aren't together. Some dudes end up seeing what I saw in her and dipped, but that's not my problem nor do I worry. My deal is my kids.
