Guys & Girls help me think this thru. My nosey ass wife did.....

[moonpizzle]

Just throwing this out there for some surface level snap judgement opinions from anyone who replies.
Today me and my old school potna are preppin to watch the superbowl. I look around the corner and my wife of 1.5 years is in my email box reading my emails. Nothing to hide just business shit and I suprise her and say "maybe you could be a little more respectful and quit reading my shit. I went on to explain that she is not my mom, I dont live in her house, she dont pay my bills and I havent done anything to question my loyalty the whole time we've been married. Any way I told her how disrespectful that was of her. I didnt even make her get off my computer. She didnt really say anything. So I go back to the couch and 30 minutes later I get up to go to the kitchen and she is still reading my emails word for word. I snap and gave her the verbal lashing of her life. Long story short she left (out of her character) maybe she wont come back.
I feel its very disrespectful for what she did and Im getting sick of such related shit like that. What is siccness's opinion of this behavior that she displayed.

Thanks.

 

[DJ Mark 7]

Dog it IS very disrespectful....That's no different than you reading her diary, checking her voicemail or opening snail mail of hers....I don't know why some people consider e-mail different....I had a girlfriend a few years back that was doin the same thing....

 

[ESFCE]

moonpizzle that statement is 100% sensible.....females just be insecure as fuck, even if you done nothing to violate their trust they are paranoid either way....

 

[up2nogood]

yea i feel you esp. when your boy is over.....i would have done the same thing but she shouldn't have just left like that i mean yall married it's soemthing serious you dont jsut leave like that naa mean....

 

[Likwid]

I would have flipped out too. Nothing pisses me off more than someone who is constantly all in your business when there is no reason to be. It's not the content, its just a matter of mutual respect of ones privacy that some people tend to violate.

 

[MeloTrauma]

Password protect that shit. Cause lemme tell you, if there is something that can be pryed into, it will get pryed into, even by the people you trust most. There is no such thing as privacy.

 

[Cheaptimes]

shes out of line for that shit,

fuck it, go through her shit, see how she likes it

 

[Cranky]

If she has no reason to distrust you than that is foul as fuck.....I would have done the same thing.....Let's hope there was nothing in those emails that could get you into trouble too.....

 

[Tall Andrew]

yea it's disrespectful. i wouldn't have got so pissed off.... just cause personally i feel like my significant other can do what she wants my shit is her shit... i keep no secrets. except for a few of course haha. and btw for dudes who do got shit on their email or websites that could compromise a relationship you better be deleting that shit religiously because that shit is hard evidence. no denying anything off the computer.

 

[KALYN]

I guess out of all the replies I'm leaning more towards Tall Andrew on this one.. in a marraige whats mine is yours, yours is mine.. no secrets, the door is open. I've never been one to snoop- if there's shit going on, its gonna come out- being paranoid in a relationship is one thats on its way downhill.

I understand the "respect" issue but if there's nothing to hide, then why be mad? This is a woman that sees you in your most vulnerable moments, ups- downs- ins and outs...
I'm just confused why she wouldnt have just laughed it off or whatever when you made your first comment to her if it was nothin'.....

 

[Sav Scorcese]

Did you ever ask her why she was doing it ? I think it's disrespectful also.

 

[SiccMadeLoc]

Maybe she was doin it for a reason..you guys havin problems o sumfin? I think she shouldnt of done it either but shit, shit like that tends ta shappen mayne....

 

[Sav Scorcese]

on second thought moonpizzle maybe your wife needs more to do in your marriage or day-to-day activities.

 

[HIM]

Personally...I think if anyone is in a relationship they should ask their siginificant other if doing stuff like that(checking their email, opening their personal mail or even reading in their diary) is ok...I dont think we should assume everything is all good just because we are in a relationship...to some people they might get offended because they feel there is NO need to act in such a way...and some people dont care, but I do think it is an issue that deserves some attention...

perhaps ur response was a lil too much, u could have just took time from the game and told her "I dont like when u do stuff like that" or "at least find out if itz ok for u to read my e-mails"....whether u are in a relationship or not there is STILL a such thing as an individual or an indiviual mind, the only thing is in a relationship u just have to bring the 2 individuals or individual (or 3, however yall do it) minds together and make decisions....

anything could have been in ur inbox..not necessarily bad, but u could have been talking to someone about a surprise u want to have for her(just an example)..so..but yeah ur married, so u guyz need to talk about that, perhaps u shouldnt of let her leave..good luck with that though..

 

[SLOWPOKE]

MI KA KA ES TU KAKA....I WOULD HAVE NOT TRIPPED.....WHAT IS MINE IS HERS AND HERS.....MINE.....SHE LOOKS AT MY BARE ASS, BANKACCOUNT AND MY TO DO LIST....I FEEL THAT YOU ALL ARE ALL A LIL TOO PARINOD TO HAVE SOME ONE PEEP WHAT YOU ARE DOING....COLD IT BE THAT YOU SHOULD NOT BE DOING IT?....LIKE GAY BIRD S N M PORN?

 

[Tall Andrew]

MI KA KA ES TU KAKA....I WOULD HAVE NOT TRIPPED.....WHAT IS MINE IS HERS AND HERS.....MINE.....SHE LOOKS AT MY BARE ASS, BANKACCOUNT AND MY TO DO LIST....I FEEL THAT YOU ALL ARE ALL A LIL TOO PARINOD TO HAVE SOME ONE PEEP WHAT YOU ARE DOING....COLD IT BE THAT YOU SHOULD NOT BE DOING IT?....LIKE GAY BIRD S N M PORN?

HAHAHAHAHHAHAH forreal chicken fucking type shit.

 

[Ry]

You did the right thing, I would be pissed if I saw my woman going through my e-mail or looking at my bank statement. Besides, if she asked I would let her look anyway, because there isnt anything to hide. The issue here is not that she did read your e-mail, its why she did it.

 

[LoC415]

OH HELLS NO!! my X was like that too...was all up in my business..sorry she left bro but she'll come back and if she does she needs to respect your privacy. That is not only disrespectful but VERY inmature from her part.

 

[Malkorasoul]

I think y'all are missing the point, he probably doesnt care if shes checkin his email just to check it, hes mad just for the simple fact that SHE DOESNT TRUST HIM...i see that this dude makes an effort to create trust in his marrige and when his wife pulls a stunt like that, its like a slap in his face because all the effort he put into creating trust is being shit on..Sometimes us men need appreciation, and his wife aint showin that..she showin the opposite..Juss like any other human, we like to be rewarded for our effort...the only thing you did wrong IMO is you snapped, it aint right to snap on ppl, keep your cool next time...

 

[mR.SiPpYGeTiPpY]

I guess out of all the replies I'm leaning more towards Tall Andrew on this one.. in a marraige whats mine is yours, yours is mine.. no secrets, the door is open. I've never been one to snoop- if there's shit going on, its gonna come out- being paranoid in a relationship is one thats on its way downhill.

I understand the "respect" issue but if there's nothing to hide, then why be mad? This is a woman that sees you in your most vulnerable moments, ups- downs- ins and outs...
I'm just confused why she wouldnt have just laughed it off or whatever when you made your first comment to her if it was nothin'.....

it's just a bit perverse though... ya feel? outta character like. if she does that what else will she do.. ya know, you think you know someone and BLAM! :dead: