I'm feeling like crap today so I'll respond later but a quick response to your example, yes I believe in that case they would go to hell. The only case I'm aware of Biblically (whether you believe in the Bible or not) of someone committing suicide more or less at God's instruction would've been Jesus or I guess you could argue Isaac at the hands of Abraham. In Isaac's case, Abraham was stopped beforehand because it was a test of faith. In Jesus's case, he defeated death by being resurrected on the 3rd day. The reason why I brought up the disciples and their death before is because they denied Jesus many times in the gospels and their faith was lacking many times. After seeing Jesus alive after the resurrection, they were absolutely unshaken in their faith, to the point of being martyred for their faith because they simply would not denounce their faith ever again after seeing Jesus resurrected.
I am not the judge of people's souls. I'm sure there are plenty of people that I went to church with over the years who won't enter the kingdom of heaven either. People attack the Bible more than any other book or document. More than the Torah or Quran (even though they have overlapping texts). Jesus is the polarizing figure here I guess.
I understand your approach, but let me tell you that I would not condemn that person to hell. Nor if he was a christian extremist.
You don't have to answer this question because you might just hover around the 'im not the judge of peoples' souls" response, but would you condemn them to hell for eternity?
for the average 70 year sentence that god created them with, in the circumstances that he placed them in, with the temperaments that he created in them, would anybody send anybody to hell for eternity? can we even grasp eternity as more than just a symbolic representation of it? 70 years for eternity? Gee, thanks a lot god. He should've created me born to a christian family in bum fuck america if he wanted to at least give me a chance at finding 'truth'. But no, he just threw me in the middle of the fuckin middle east to a prominent muslim family and created all these people around me to keep me my ignorant and innocent ass in check everytime I even thought of questioning what the truth is. And then while I waste my whole 70 year existence on this shit planet believing that I am doing gods will, even as far as willing to commit suicide for his cause, he will still say 'haha u suck hell for eternity for you'.
I know it is hard to approach this question from an outer angle, like the one I am presenting to you because honestly dude, we get our identity from our environment and the circumstances that shape us. Asking you to see what I am saying directly is literally asking you to die to yourself. It is not an easy task but it is very possible.
One last question, since I (and hopefully you) would not send our hypothetical friend to hell for eternity as you claim god would, would that make me more worthy of your worship? Unlike him I wouldn't even care for it anyway.
But the answer here is: of course not, all that we can say at this point in our conclusion is that god would not send somebody to hell either. Whatever goodness you exhibit, 'he' will always one-up you. Am I right?
Take your time with the responding if you are sick as I am in no hurry and feel somewhat bad for what I am doing because I know exactly what is at stake here for you.